Hi ladies
We moved house just over a fortnight ago. At the old house, our son, who’ll be two in June, would contentedly nod off around 8pm with ‘Tom Thumb’, in his cot in his room, and wake well-rested 11 or 12 hours later :)
But now we’ve moved, our son is understandably a bit unsettled, and we’ve been piling on extra cuddles and reassurance at bedtime - which of course he loves (and now insists on) right up until he goes to sleep, and again when he wakes any time between 1am and 4am. In the day he's fine - confident and happy and enjoying the new house; not clingy or insecure at all. It's just night times which have become a mess.
Knackered from the night wakings, I’ve taken to sleeping on a mattress in with our son, not that either of us seems to be sleeping better for it: he's yawning and eye-rubbing throughout the day (not like him, but he's down a couple of hours' sleep in every 24 at the moment) and I’ve slept through once since we moved in, and am becoming a grumpy mummy :(
So what to do? Well, I’m torn. Although we didn’t co-sleep before, part of me is finding it lovely; I love the cuddles and closeness, and it means no tears or insecurity in the night. But it's not really improving our sleep, and although our son is content and comforted, I’m exhausted and becoming a bit resentful. We have a boxed-up house to unpack. And it took over an hour to settle our son tonight, with me and Dad taking it in turns to comfort him while the other wolfed down their tea. While Dad was in with him, I could hear him balling for me, and when I got into him, he said: "Please lay down, Mummy. Cuddle me, please Mummy." I can't say no to that! We haven't even attempted an evening out since moving ...
I'm getting rambly - am knackered. I suppose what I'm interested to hear is firstly, how would co-sleepers out there handle this situation and still manage to get enough kip, sort the new house, say more than a passing hello to the other half, etc. And how would non-co-sleepers encourage a kind and compassionate return to previous sleep habits, without compromising our son's trust in us? Any ideas and insights much appreciated.
Thanks
EggyBreadAndBeans
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Co-sleeping – yes or no? – with toddler unsettled by house move
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eggybreadandbeans · 23/05/2006 21:45
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