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Further freakingly fantabulous adventures of the 40+ Mummies Part 2

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blueblackdye Tue 21-May-13 21:08:55

Our 2nd thread is full but it won't prevent us from laughing, moaning, keeping on supporting each other, sharing and chatting over our new life with 1 or 2, even 5 children !
Here you go, fantastic 40+ Mums, a brand new thread for all of us, old friends from the pregnancy thread or new joiners

blueblackdye Fri 24-May-13 14:02:31

Chairman ! Yeah ! Very glad you had some rest ! Hope DD will be less poo productive today.
EAgle, I will watch that as soon as I have finished ths post.

Our Mums feel they can say anything and everything to us, but we do have feelings too !

So wet outside, can't believe how awful this spring has been. Question is, will we have a summer ? Or go straight back to autumn, which we never left tbh.

blueblackdye Fri 24-May-13 14:45:11

Omg, DS has put his Yoda outfit on after his nap ! I have been checking and was glad hetook off his ears for lunch, then for 30min after waking up he played without the outfit and now he has it back on... Star wars virus must be genetic ! DH is too young to be infected when the very first episode was released. smile

somewherebecomingrain Fri 24-May-13 17:23:14


knicky that is a tough one. i would expect more from the public sector. Where do employers get off not supporting families. I hope there are remedies - keep us posted. Baby k is totally gorgeous!

scare baby s smiled at my mil first- she always smiles at those shes not seen so much - more interesting. Smiles are coming for me though. Your babes are gorgeous - I love how dd is looking at ds. Well done on the expressing. I swore I wouldn't express as its the most pointless indignity but now wondering if it'll all be different this time - I'll gush, baby s will accept bottle.

chair glad your two are better and that dp gave you a richly deserved night off. Dd is a big smiler!smileshe sounds lovely.

eagle that is soooo funny. (The link) Love it re your mum. Mine is so tactful it is hard to workout what she thinks about anything. My weightless is stalling - planning a one day 5:2 style fast. Glad eaglet got through jabs - it's truly heartbreaking.

lrm need to join you on the wobble board. Is 4.5 not enough? I've stalked at 3 stone and would love to lose another stone and a half.

Baby s crying her intermediate pissed off cry. Ok on boob now.

bbd the yoda story is gorgeous! He was parted from his ears- wow. Your dads saying about doors is one of my favourites - it has been with me through all my tough times though its the bob marley version - when one door is closed another one opens. Maybe he first heard it from your dad? Good counsel for knicky.

AFM peeved that may have to get a new roof for our property that we rent out. Will it stop leaking or not if we patch it? Roofers hard to interpret. Etc. Intimidating perturbing figure of 7k looms -we haven't got it.

Baby s so gorgeous and fat I'm beside myself with delight at her. On which note must leave screen for girl.


somewherebecomingrain Fri 24-May-13 18:21:42

Just picked my ds up from nursery. He'd baked the most enormous biscuit which for some unknown reason the key worker unwrapped and gave to him there and then. What was I going to do? Boundaries and all that! I did protest weakly but didn't really have the strength to see it through, It was a stable door bolted horse situation - no getting it back.

I was also ravenous and the biscuit looked bloody delicious, buttery crumbliness, lightly browned on the base. I asked to try some ... And the little bugger refused! He ate the whole thing, I just had to suck it up as I was coming from too childish a place myself to make a stand. My thought process was 'gimme the biscuit! Gimme the biscuit!"

GoatBongosAnonymous Fri 24-May-13 22:53:28

Hello everyone. Lovely posts. I will rejoin properly soon I hope after marking is done. My word count tells me I have so far written 15,534 words on report forms. Am about one third done. See you all after 45,000. hmm

Midgetm Sat 25-May-13 09:21:35

Flying in to mark place on new thread. Like so many of the older babies we seem to have sleep regression and I am knackered all over again - catching up always seems challenging. Love the Yoda outfit - want pictures. Baby crying, better go. Oh and I am doing 5 2 too. Does seem to be working. LRM - last night I baked bread and butter pudding with rum soaked fruit. I virtually am dishing you out some.

scarecrow22 Sat 25-May-13 17:22:46

T up since 5, DD since 5.30, being disciplined by 6am, screeched and woke T from his nap when finally got him to nap, and then we'd run out of milk for coffee. It has been a loooong day shock Early bedtime at Scarecrow Towers

<considers white wine vinager>

scarecrow22 Sat 25-May-13 18:59:36

one in bed, one being read to by daddy (who arrived home just in time), house tidyish, wine poured. sighhhhhh

blueblackdye Sat 25-May-13 19:15:47

Hope you all have a chilled out evening and lovely long week end !
In a very bad mood today. Tomorrow will be better. Hugs to all

littleredmonkey Sat 25-May-13 19:53:36

Somewhere. 4,5 stone would be pre pregnancy weight. I am 5foot 11 so tall. Was 16stone 7lbs now 12 stone 5 this morning. New aim 11 stone 13. Not a good start today had cake crisps and bread. Never mind.
Midget. Thanks for the virtual pud it was yummy!

somewherebecomingrain Sun 26-May-13 09:07:06

Already! lrm. I had crisps and jam on toast for dinner,

I'm 5'6'' and was 15 st before birth, 13st pre preg. Now 12 st and feeling slim but I used to be 10 st. Target - 11 st. Method 5:2 lite.


ChairmanWow Sun 26-May-13 09:50:03

Hi all. V quick post from mother in law land for advice. DD still has diarrhoea 5 days on. I'm wondering about lactose intolerance given she is formula fed. Anyone got any experience? She seems fine apart from her bum - feeding well, lots of wet nappies, fine in herself. We're doing at least 10 pooey nappies a day.

Weight-wise: 5'2", 12st. Was 10st 7-ish pre pregnancy, but was 9st 7 before DS. Want to get down to 9 stone. Exercise is the key, but still thinking about diet. Bit scared of 5:2.

See you all later

somewherebecomingrain Sun 26-May-13 13:22:46

Yes chair baby s pooed every nappy at first and had seemingly incurable nappy rash. Health visitor said cut out cows milk - it could be milk protein or lactose. It did the trick - now it's one lake of poo every two days or so and nothing at all the rest of the time, and nappy rash gone.

somewherebecomingrain Sun 26-May-13 13:24:35

HV said they can be sensitive to it even in breast milk from mums diet. So perhaps the 'wrong' formula can trigger it.

bytheseaside Sun 26-May-13 15:23:22

soooo ... after jumperooing about until 11.30pm last night, baby seaside finally crashed and slept until 11am!!! (with a few dream feeds as usual) and is now napping again, so I finally managed to catch up with all that's been going on with you chatters. Sorry scarecrowprobably not what you need to hear. I think I may be boasting.

goat keep up that marking!! I'd like to send you a big box of chocolate and vat of coffee to help keep you going.

chairman I know I bang on about it, but osteopath made baby s go from 6-8 poos a day to one every couple of days after 1 session - was amazing. I did try to reduce lactose, brassicas, baked beans, OJ, chocolate too for a while (ok, I failed with the choc) as HV said could contribute to colic/reflux/upset tummy via breast milk, but other things I read said made no difference. I didn't know what to think really. My cousin's baby had bad intolerances / allergies to stuff the mum ate via breast milk. BTW how are things with DH? glad you managed to discuss it calmly, you sound like you have good peace-making skills

eagle excuse me, but your mums an idiot (sorry if thats rude) - you look great! my dad tends to say tactless stuff like that. I'm doing my best to ignore. DP luckily never would, and doesn't seem to mind what I look like, lovely lovely man. Of course we don't look exactly like we did before we had a baby. That's because we've had a baby - hurray!!

bbd aah, your cute ds! when do they get into dressing up do you think? I have to admit I put baby s in her funniest clothes sometimes to give me and family a laugh, but she's obviously oblivious!

scarecrowloved that website you posted link to. I'm getting so cross at reading flimsy yet bossy stuff by 'experts' on baby-raising, it was breath of fresh air! somewhere I did a lot of searching for research on bed sharing with a prem baby, couldn't find any proper research on the dangers - it might be out there, but I couldn't find it, yet again and again was told it was dangerous for prems / teenies. Well, I did it anyway because I had to, and have mainly really loved it, and it really helped with bf and putting weight on for us.

cycle how are you and baby cycle doing?

midget what are you cooking this weekend? actually, don't tell me. All the chat about weight has made me realise I think I need wibbly tummies link too though - 8 months post-birth, time to get out of the pregnancy leggings no? LRM I'm utterly in awe - you have been so dedicated and disciplined.

Baby s just entrances me every day, I can't express how happy she has made me smile I don't even really mind the bad stuff like nappies and sleep most of the time. The fly in the ointment is my utter dread of going back to work. I seriously can't really think about it without going hot and cold, imagining her feeling abandoned (whilst I realise she will prob be fine) and me feeling utterly bereft. Those with older ones, did you feel like this, and if so did it get better? How did you cope? Due to my job circs its unfortunately all or nothing for me - (very) full time or not at all, can't really take career break either, as if I'm out for a bit that's kind of it for me and this career. Its taken me a long time and a slog to get where I am, part of me wouldn't care as I'm so happy on mat leave, but suspect I would like it less long term, and am worried about financial security - DPs job not immensely secure. But I literally don't know if I can leave her. I don't disapprove of childcare or anything dim like that, its just this very over-emotional reaction to thinking about doing it myself. Suspect I may just need to pull myself together and get on with doing what millions of other mums have to do too. knicky feel for your situation too - that's just rubbish - you must feel like publicly shaming his employers.

waves to everyone I haven't name checked - I've still read your news, just run out of writing time, need to have coffee and choco leibnitz in this sleep window - no wonder diet is going nowhere

scarecrow22 Sun 26-May-13 21:10:22

Lots of lovely updates.

Seaside you can say anything for the joy of reading your name smile More seriously, I don't compare (well except the hallucinatory quality of Chairman's Whole Night's Sleep). Indeed one of my thoughts about places like Mumsnet is they are distorted by the tendency to focus on the negatives - it is more useful/necessary and less boastful to post about bad nights' sleep, weaning problems and tantrums than all the opposites.

Chair, you might well be right about DD's lactose intolerance. Definitely worth pursuing. I'm not a big one for rushing to GP, but might it be worth going - partly to discuss ideas, and just in case there are any less obvious impacts like salts or mineral losses? Hope you find some answers soon.

Interested in diet chat. Was a bit hmm this morning that still resolutely 12st after two weeks of trying to cut sugar - probably because I have not been super good at it, and eaten loads of nuts (?), and working my way through a bottle of wine. Compared to an adult near universal 10-10.7 st. Anyway, among many good things about DH is he is so supportive and encouraging, reminding me that I lost the weight slowly and steadily last time, and last bit only when stopped bf-ing, and that this is perhaps why T so content and growing so well. Also swam with DD yesterday and hit a tennis ball today and both felt great, so confident can start upping walking again and I start a core and pelvic floor class next Monday, after which I will slowly pick up some running.

I'm fascinated by height/weight stats: somehow had Chair as taller and LRM as more petite...

Goat, feel for you on marking. DH also in marking purgatory. He is amazingly sane about it but it must be a bit soul destroying some days. Are you at 30k yet?! What subjects/ages do you teach? Assuming you are happy to say...

BBD, hope you are feeling better today. I can't bear to think of you grumpy: you give so much warmth and light and calm to the rest of us, I feel somebody should be there to shine some back. Just loved description of DS as Yoda. I too adored those films (the original ones).

Just watched v v g documentary about Bowie on iPlayer - called Five Days. Highly recommend if you are even half a fan. Funnily only film I've stayed awake through recently is Iron Lady, which also highly rated. Glad to see on TV though - seemed more suited to small screen, plus as that is how we usually see outer politics maybe more natural too.

Seaside - poor you: going back to work ghastly. So many odd feelings it throws up. I tried to separate the childcare and the leaving her in childcare. I was and still am totally thrilled with our CM: she is all I dreamed and hoped for. That way when I hated leaving DD I didn't add any worry about what she was doing to that. I found keeping in touch days helped: they were more doable as one offs, and when I enjoyed seeing colleagues and using my skills, I could also think about the positives, and focus on taking it one day at a time. As posted here I still got home and sobbed for missing DD some eves, so it is never going to be easy: it does though get eas^^ier^^. Special hugs for this.

AFM, T smiled at me smilegrinsmilegrinDD is a munchkin still and DH is being massively better (though still monstrously presumptuous : yesterday he spent whole day from 6-6 out at a motor racing event and then breezily told me he was going to bar to watch Grand Prix today...). Still, a lot better, and a happier home. And T smiled, in case I haven't mentioned it for a while grin

Cycle - thinking of you every day xx

scarecrow22 Sun 26-May-13 21:16:29

Forgot to say: am ridiculously thrilled that a thread I started in chat about words that DC mis-pronounce which are too cute to correct has had loads of replies and somebody even suggested it for MN Classics! How my sense of self worth is changing...

ChairmanWow Sun 26-May-13 22:52:13

Thanks for replies everyone. If we're still in a world of poo towards the end of this week I'll take DD to the GP.

scarecrow, how wonderful to be getting smiles. It feels amazing doesn't it. The first real piece of interaction, and lovely to see the contentment. Hope he gives you lots! Also congrats on a successful thread. I love it! My DS calls pineapple 'pappapple' and when we saw some peacocks today he called them 'peapots''. Gorgeous. Though peapots makes me think of plastic containers for urine samples. Hmmm.

Off to bed now. Night all.

cyclecamper Sun 26-May-13 22:58:40

We've escaped! Babycamper gained the whole 10g required for them to let us go! The house is chaos, with laundry, post and baby clothes everywhere, but it's great to be home. Tomorrow I can choose my own clothes, instead of just wearing what my husband brings me!grin. (Isn't it strange what you miss?)

somewherebecomingrain Sun 26-May-13 22:58:58

Where is chat? I can never find it

somewherebecomingrain Sun 26-May-13 23:15:38

My little darling has settled in the Moses basket All By Herself. Extraordinary. I had to turn her slightly on her side though which is against the advice. She doesn't like to be swaddled now it appears. God it changes so fast.

My ds until v recently said 'private seat' for privacy and 'crunchyside' for countryside. I like 'pappapple'.

somewherebecomingrain Sun 26-May-13 23:16:41

cycle crossed posts. Hooray!!!!thanksthanksthanksbrewbiscuitxxxx

ChairmanWow Mon 27-May-13 07:34:23

Yay, yay, yay cycle. It must feel so wonderful to be home. And brilliant weight gain too. What a relief.

scarecrow22 Mon 27-May-13 08:43:20

oh cycle so pleased for you and all the family. Ignore jobs and rest. x

somewherebecomingrain Mon 27-May-13 09:00:08

scarecrow crossed posts.

How fabulous that T is smiling. grinNothing like it.

I've also been thinking that we - or I - get a bit negative on here. I'd never dump on my mates the way I do on here. I'd also balance things a bit more in the way I told it.

Compare issue s important- it's the old balance again, we don't want to be boastful Facebook style narcissists nut we could perhaps share a bit more of the good stuff.

seaside I have been on a journey into the co sleeping research and have emerged resolved that you do it deliberately and carefully, with every precaution.

Re work I've not had to go back to work full time until dp was three. I feel for you and I believe dropping out of work a bit eg to go part time can open new possibilities. Equally I believe good quality child care can nurture babies fine and women should be free to do whatever they want - esp if they have a great job.

I was told A childminder is good for those early years - up to three - as you want one unchanging person the bubba can attach to. Attachment is all. This raises jealousy feelings - did for me with my superb CM - but is best for the LO so ultimately I felt better.

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