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I shouted at my 2.10 year old, then cried(7 Posts)
Argh. I am so annoyed at myself.
Had a long day at work then did nursery pick up, dinner, bath etc and DD was fannying about at bedtime. Being cute and sweet, but always just wanting more and more and more. After 45 mins up with her she decided she wanted to go to the toilet. Please note we attempted potty training a month ago and had to abandon it due to illness and she has been in nappies ever since and never ever wants to go use the toilet or potty.
I saw red mist. I am not proud of myself, I shouted at her and stormed away to get the potty. I nearly lost it with her, for the first time ever. When I came back and put her on it, she wimpered 'don't be angry with me mummy', with wee tears running down her cheeks.
I am so upset and annoyed with myself for being so visibly angry with her. I do have a short fuse, but have tried to hard to keep my temper no matter what, and this is the first time I have pretty list lost my temper. What sort of mum am I when my toddler says something like that to me?
A tired one?
Ok not ideal but a cuddle, say sorry and end on a funny note - maybe delay bedtime by ten minutes to make sure that a laugh and a smile is the last thing of the day. Have a big snuggle in bed.
Then go downstairs, make a cuppa and relax. It happens. It doesn't make you a bad mum.
Give her a big tickle, say your sorry, kiss and cuddle then make a cuppa and relax!
Your not a bad mum.
Be a bit kinder to yourself. I defy anyone to say they have never shouted at their toddler.
I once shouted "stop shouting" at DD1 when she was 3yrs old !!!
What sort of Mum are you? A good sort of Mum, the fact this has bothered you shows that.
Don't be so hard on your self!! Good grief you are only human. Say sorry to her and pour your self a glass of wine. She won't be scarred for life and it won't be the last time you loose it either. Chill
I did give her a big cuddle when she said it, and told her I was sorry for shouting, but I was tired and annoying as she was messing about, when all I wanted was to tuck her in and give her a big cuddle.
We ended it okay, as I gave her a wee back rub and she gave me a cuddle and a kiss.
I just remember my dad having a short fuse when I was younger and I didn't like it. It scared me being a bit the same tonight.
It feels horrible when you lose your rag and shout at your darling small child when they haven't deserved it - believe me, we've all done it. If this is the first time you've done it, that's pretty good! Don't beat yourself up - she won't be scarred by one episode of being yelled at. If you do it on a daily basis, that's different. Ds1 once said to me, sadly, "please be nicer to me Mummy" when I'd been really snappy and lost it a bit when trying to get ready to leave the house. I felt dreadful too, and spent the evening lamenting what a terrible mum I was. You just have to say sorry for shouting, cuddle and make it up to them, and try to count to ten next time you feel the red mist descending, or leave the room.
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