If you had a large and spacious five-bedroom/four bathroom home, would you...

[Bonsoir]

... make your two DCs (10 and 8) share the smallest bedroom?

[Mannequinkate]

Need more context. How many other people live in the house? Are the dc's same gender? What might the other bedrooms be used for?

[SconeInSixtySeconds]

Only when they had driven me to the point of insanity.

It would be the ultimate sanction after a weekend of non stop arguing and bickering, like a giant lockable get along shirt.

[AnyFucker]

I would make my partner and dc sleep in the boxroom and spread all my designer clothes and make up all over the other rooms

Why ?

[Bonsoir]

Father, mother and two sons live in the apartment. One bedroom is used as a playroom - it is a long way from the boys' bedroom, in between the kitchen and the family sitting room (there is a formal drawing room as well). That leaves four bedrooms in the "bedroom area", one of which is a guest room and the other (which is large) is used for dumping suitcases.

[Bonsoir]

I don't know "why". It just makes faintly uneasy! Why wouldn't you allow your DCs some personal space?

[SconeInSixtySeconds]

Oh. That isn't the same as my fantasy then, just they always share? Well, perhaps the dc prefer to share, or perhaps the luggage is Louis Vuitton and needs a room of its own?

[Bonsoir]

They have always shared but I cannot see any good reason. Plus the children don't have desks as there isn't enough space in their room for more than two beds, a wardrobe and a bookcase, so they cannot do their homework in peace, let alone play in their own space (no toys in the bedroom).

[Rooble]

Why would it make you feel uneasy? (Isn't it none of your business?). Are the DCs uncomfortable with the arrangement or is it just you? Some children actually like to share!

[SilverSixpence]

Why can't they share a bigger bedroom and have the playroom closer to it?

[Rooble]

??? In fact the more I read, the more I think "keep your beak out!". Do they NEED desks in their bedroom? Can't they do their homework elsewhere in their enormous house? My DS uses his bedroom for sleeping in and that's all maybe that's what they want to do, too?

[Bonsoir]

It isn't my business to comment to the family concerned but I can wonder about why it makes me feel uneasy and is very different to the choices I would make for my own family.

[Fairyloo]

Maybe they want to share?

What's it to you

[Mintyy]

No, I wouldn't, unless they actually wanted to share. And if they did want to share I would give them a bigger bedroom. Anything else is slightly odd, yes, I agree.

[claudedebussy]

i would get rid of the suitcases, make that and the guest room the kid's bedrooms, unless they want to share, in which case they get the larger of the two.

the smallest room becomes the guest bedroom.

but nowt as queer as folk eh?

[cupcake78]

If they want to share then unless they stop each other sleeping and constantly argue why not? You could make a study room out of one of the other rooms. Might work out better as work and sleep would be separate. Far healthier then sleeping surrounded by homework and stress!

[Bonsoir]

The suitcases would easily fit in the playroom (which has masses of cupboards) and the playroom, which has an ensuite, would make a great guest room as it isn't with the family bedrooms. Which leaves four bedrooms for four family members - so plenty of space to play with!

I don't know, I expect to allocate personal space to DC - their own desk, wardrobes, space for their own toys and games...

[Pascha]

Is it just because they always have? My twin brothers always did share a room til secondary school when they got one each. I might be inclined to put the seed of an idea in the parents heads about the older one being ready for his own room when he goes to secondary school (assuming he does change school at 11 of course)

[Bonsoir]

I'm not going to say anything! It's just been in my mind since yesterday since the mother concerned showed me and another friend she had invited for lunch around the boys' room, which she has just redecorated.

[Bonsoir]

I suppose I was bit that she has redecorated their room and has no intention of giving them a room each at this stage.

[MotheringShites]

Perhaps the parents want them to have a room that's purely for sleeping in so as to avoid distractions at night time. They have a dedicated playroom for everything else. I don't really see that it's a huge problem.

[Bonsoir]

I suspect, sadly, that it is more about controlling every second of their existence and not allowing them any free space to do their own thing.

[Alwayscheerful]

what motheringshites said.

[AngryGnome]

Do you know the children don't want to share? If they want their own rooms but are not allowed them, then that does seem odd. But maybe they just like sharing - my best friend at primary school always shared a room with her little sister, and the other bedroom they shared together as a playroom.

[SirRaymondClench]

I'm not sure what the point of having a 5 bed home if you are going to use only 2 bedrooms and make two children share the smallest room.
Seems a bit ridiculous. If the kids want to share then they should have a bigger room and maybe make one of the smaller rooms a study.
Why have 5 bedrooms otherwise?

[DeepRedBetty]

I banned things that go bleep from bedrooms right from the beginning, as bedrooms are for sleeping in, not watching telly or playing Minecraft, but dtds have had own bedrooms since age 9, and have all the things they could possibly desire that go bleep, flicker, play MTV etc etc in their sitting room. They can do as they please in there - within reason - until bedtime. There is also a separate computer room for homework.