DS1 just turned 3 at the end of March and has recently become super clingy to me, especially in new environments. DS2 was born in mid February, so I don't know if it's because of his arrival or not. I'm just at my wits end and really don't know how to deal with his behaviour.
Some recent examples:
- He's started crying and clinging to my legs very morning when I drop him at maternelle (Belgian equivalent of pre-school). He's been there full-time since September, and was perfectly happy there until mid-March. He has plenty of friends he plays with there and the teachers tell me he calms down after 10/15 minutes (often with the aid of his dummy!). He's often happy on the way to school in the morning but freezes when he sees all the kids in the classroom. When I ask him what's wrong he says he wants Mummy.
- At his school fete last weekend his class did a dance thing. Again, he was really excited on the way to school, but once we got there and he saw all the people, he just clung to me. It ended up in a massive crying meltdown, and he only went up and danced with his class when I told him I'd go with him.
- We went to an open day at a fire station this weekend. He was so excited beforehand about going on a fire engine, but when he saw all the other kids waiting to go on, he wouldn't go on. Not even with his Dad. With a bit of cajoling, I eventually got him to go on a different fire engine with me, and he loved it. Same thing with the bouncy castle, except he wouldn't go on at all because I coudn't go on with him :-(
I know separation anxiety is normal, but I just don't know how to deal with it any more and it's making me sad to see my happy little boy get so upset and clingy. I've tried being supportive, shouting, punishing, cuddling, talking to him/explainng but nothing works. I find it really hard when he's been so excited about something, like his school fete, and then he just melts down crying. Could this change in behaviour be because of DS2 arriving? He's been really good about it at home - clearly happy to have a brother. I'm obviously on maternity leave now, but normally work full-time, so I don't know if it's because of that either? He's not used to me being at home and was previously in creche full-time before starting school.
Sorry for the mammoth post. Is there anyone with any advice or experience of this that can help? Coping techniques for me and DS1 would be really welcome...