Can I have your honest opinion on this:
After school yesterday, My OH took me and my 5 year old son in his car to go home.
My son happily asked if he could play on my phone. I said sure, as he had a good day at school.
Then, I realised I had to send a text to someone, so I asked my son, can mummy have the phone back to send a text to ......
He handed me back the phone, willingly ? no moaning.
Then after about 30 seconds he said ?Can I have it back now Mummy??, I said, ?No darling, hang on a min, I haven?t finished?, another 30 seconds, and he asked again (Not moaning, just a chirpy little, ?Can I have it now??).
At this point my OH started shouting at him, in a very aggressive (Not just ?firm), but angry voice, saying that he wouldn?t have it at all if he kept asking.
Now, if my son had been moaning/crying/winging about it, I would agree, but he was only asking, in a normal tone.
Anyway, then, he asked again.... and I was finished so I gave it back to him.
My OH went off on one, saying how I shouldn?t have let him have it. He then swang the car around erratically, saying he wouldn?t take us. I simply said ?What is wrong with you?!? and he started saying how he?s ?Old School? and expects a child to listen the first time and not go on and on about something. (I do agree to a certain extent, but my son wasn?t moaning/winging, in my opinion he was just asking, perhaps he was being a little impatient to ask so many times, but it didn?t annoy me or anything).
I asked my OH, ?What is the big issue? Charlie is allowed to speak, and ask questions, I don?t understand why this upsets you, he wasn?t moaning?.
My OH then goes off on me, saying how I am undermining him infront of Charlie. I ask, please can you stop shouting in front of him. He shouts, he is not shouting, and this isn?t him ?Shouting?........
He then swears, and I say calmly, please do not swear in front of my son. He tells us to get out of the car......
Tell me, is this normal behaviour????
He then says some really horrible and rude things in front of my son, but he says, I am a ?Pansy Mother? and he is 'Old school' seriously ? I am not ? that boy gets major telling off?s and consequences, I just didn?t think in this case he had done anything wrong!
What are your thoughts?
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Bluebella · 04/05/2013 08:56
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