Nursery drop off misery

[Piemother]

Just that really. Dd1 has been at a lovely, tiny nursery for 2.5 years (she is 3.5). I kept her there during mat leave with dd2. She does 2 days a week.
She goes from one day breezily waving me away to another day sobbing and today screaming hysterically 'I want my mummy!' And I could hear her from the car park.
The staff have been the same all the time she's been there and she knows them very well. They try very hard to distract her and cuddle her. I can't see what else they can do.


So....we went away last week and that probably why she's bad today but god it was awful.

Any advice?
And or if she is like this after 2.5 years is she not as settled there as I thought she was?

Need and hand hold and some wisdom really

[Twinklestarstwinklestars]

She's maybe just realised you're going home?

My ds aged 3.4 has realised that if he says he feels sick he might not go, ds1 aged 8 tries this all the time so I know he's not really poorly as he's copying.

As awful as it is (I was neatly in tears the other day) if she was unhappy she would have told you by now I think.

[DrinkFeckArseGirls]

My DD started doing that too! One of the nursery nurses said it is quite common for whatever reason. They realise they could be staying at home with you, which I guess is the preferred option! DD is 2 years and 5 months btw.

[Piemother]

It's getting really hard. I want her at home with me bit I'm back to work in August and I'm so worried if I take her out going back will be so much worse.
I could consider a childminder as dd2 will be only 8 months. But then dd1 will start school next sept and going from cm to school would be hard.

[mummy2benji]

My ds1 was always very reluctant to go to nursery after we'd been away on holiday and he hadn't been there for a couple of weeks. Even when he'd been going there a while and loved it. He would say he didn't want to go in and cry. I know for a fact that within 5 minutes he was charging round with all his friends having a great time. He is now 4.5yo and at big school. He is a happy, very sociable and outgoing little boy and I am sure that the nursery he went to since the age of 18 months, 3 days a week, has played a part in that. I'm sure your dd is settled and happy there and this is just normal child reaction to being off for a bit.

[Piemother]

Mummy2benji - that's v reassuring, thank you

[Twinklestarstwinklestars]

Piemother a childminder may be a good thing too, I am one and I looked after a little girl who used to scream the nursery down! We go twice a day plus go to toddler groups at the school she now goes to preschool at and her mum didn't believe she would go straight in until she saw for herself! Could you see if there are any childminders who do similar?

[Piemother]

Don't understand twice a day?

[Piemother]

Don't understand twice a day?

[Twinklestarstwinklestars]

We go on the school run twice a day, also childminders deliver eyfs the same as nurseries or should be so would receive the same educational input.