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Holiday with grandparents

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Emma54 · 27/04/2013 11:10

Can anyone give me some advice?

For the last 3 years my parents have paid for me, ds, dd, dh to go on holiday with them. they always take us to Sardinia. This year my dh says that he will go with my mum and dad but not to sardinia as he is bored with it. Sardiania is what is being offered!
I have said to dh that we will go somewhere else of his choosing for a family holiday (without any grandparents). What I want to know is whether it would be unreasonable of me to take the kids to Sardinia as well (without Dh). They have 8 weeks holiday so we have plenty of time. Dh would be using his holiday entitlement on the family holiday.

Thanks in advance

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TanteRose · 27/04/2013 11:12

Of course - why wouldn't you?

TanteRose · 27/04/2013 11:13

I mean of course you and the DCs should go - how lovely, two hols!

bakingaddict · 27/04/2013 11:18

I don't see a problem with what you're proposing

You and the kids get to spend some nice quality time with your parents without DH but he gets a holiday without them somewhere of his own choosing

Fluffy1234 · 27/04/2013 11:21

Sounds a great idea to me. You get to spend time with your parents, they spend time with your DC and you also get time with your DH and DC, just the four of you.

Emma54 · 27/04/2013 11:30

Thank you everyone. I dont see the problem apart from dh does see a problem!

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Fluffy1234 · 27/04/2013 11:46

What problem does he see?

TanteRose · 27/04/2013 12:02

There is no problem unless your DH is one of those ridiculous men who can't cook or get themselves up in the morning...

cornyderpy · 27/04/2013 12:05

yes I'd go - it's a free holiday so why not?
is your dh expecting your parents to go somewhere else (and pay for everybody) to suit him?

Emma54 · 27/04/2013 12:36

Cornyderpy, thats how it feels. I just think we are lucky to have someone offering to pay for us at all!
He just does not want us to go. Doesnt think its right.
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TanteRose · 27/04/2013 12:56

Well, he doesn't own you so just go and have a nice time

teacher123 · 27/04/2013 13:24

That's really silly! He's the one who doesn't want to go!

Emma54 · 27/04/2013 13:56

Thanks.
I was beginning to feel like I was being really unreasonable/unkind. I think I will stand my ground. Dont see whay the children should miss out on a lovely holiday with their grandparents. It will be a shock for him!

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MortifiedAdams · 27/04/2013 14:03

Id just say "ahh shame you arent going to Sardinina, we wouod have loved to have you there" and tgmhen leave him be.

cornyderpy · 27/04/2013 14:14

gosh he sounds like he's taking your parent's generosity very much for granted.

Iggi101 · 27/04/2013 15:19

I think having your holiday planned for you each year might be a bit annoying - and I would hate to go to the same place every year myself. If he has limited holidays then, albeit generous offer etc, it is unfair for the time to automatically go to your parents' plan each year.
Going without him seems a better plan all round.

Notsoyummymummy1 · 27/04/2013 22:40

I sympathise a bit with your DH if I'm honest. I'm always told that every year I have to go on holiday with the inlaws - I never enjoy it and dread it coming round but I have to go otherwise dh will take dd without me and I'd miss them desperately. It's horrible having your life dictated to and having to shut up and be grateful because someone else is paying!

Emma54 · 28/04/2013 13:59

I totally appreciate the inlaw holiday thing and the having your holiday planned for you. Thats why I am suggesting he chooses where we go for our holiday, but is it fair to make the kids/grandparents miss out on a week together?

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BackforGood · 28/04/2013 14:16

To start with, I had sympathy with your dh, I wouldn't want to go to the same place each year, and I wouldn't want to go with my PiL each year, but what you are suggesting sounds fab. You still all get to go wherever you want to as a family unit, and you and the dc get an extra holiday with grandparents. I can't see why this should be a problem, as he doesn't have the AL for both anyway.

Chocotrekkie · 28/04/2013 14:21

Make sure you also leave him a list of jobs to be done while you are away - painting the halls a good one as its a nightmare with kids.....

Mutley77 · 28/04/2013 15:09

Sounds great, go for it! It sounds like your DH feels aggrieved at being left out of the second holiday but he is totally unjustified IMO.

Emma54 · 29/04/2013 16:30

Thanks everyone. Decided to go, but I dont think I'll leave him a list of jobs to do. He was go mad!!!!

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