I am on my own with ds (age 6), family help where they can but they're not local. Sometimes it all gets to be a bit of a grind doing everything, every day with no adult back up, chance of a lie in, bit of support on the parenting approach etc etc.
ds has become very resentful about being asked to help with anything. This morning he got stroppy about being asked to turn his bedroom light off before we went downstairs to leave for school. I was carrying a big basket of washing. I got a little bit cross but explained that we both have to help and my hands were full, so he needed to just get on and do it.
3 mins later we are leaving the house. I once again have my hands full, with his bag and sports stuff and my things. I had got it all because he was at the front door ahead of me. Asked him to open the door. Cue strop about why I couldn't do it blah blah whinge whine. At which point I lost it.
I really shouted. Had a rant about how I do everything, how he has a warm home, and clean clothes, and food to eat, and toys to play with and activities to go to and technology to enjoy and all I am asking for is a bit of help. I don't expect him to do "chores" but I do expect little bits of help... you get the gist. What a horrible way for him to start the day. He's going to a friend for tea straight after school so I can't even do anything to make it better until the evening.
tbh while I know I shouldn't have shouted and ranted, I don't know how else to get it through to him that he has to pull his weight just a teeny tiny bit, without being stroppy and resentful in the process. In all other matters he is a lovely boy, cuddly, kind and tries hard at school. But it all got a bit too much for me this morning, and I'm actually not prepared to let him get away with this attitude - but I need a better way of getting through to him... most of all I feel shit about how I went on at him.
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Lost my temper big time with ds (6) this morning. :-(
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BuiltForComfort · 23/04/2013 14:43
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