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Does anyone feel that their lo gets bored of you..(5 Posts)
I am currently on mat leave. My ds is 8 months old and some days i feel like he is fed up of seeing me all the time. I took him to baby massage today and he was getting grizzly tired so tried snuggling him to get him to fall asleep but he got really frustrated with me and started pulling my hair out of my ponytail. I know this sounds really stupid but i felt really upset by this as i felt he had rejected my comfort.
We later had the grandparents round for their weekly visit and i just felt that my ds was happier having someone different other than just me. He was giggling away with them (which dont get me wrong i obviously want him to be happy and to love his grandparents) but i felt slightly jealous that he was enjoying his time with them when i feel that he hadnt enjoyed his day with me. He also didnt even look over at me whilst they were here (which he sometimes does to make sure i am still there).
Its as though i have pissed him off or is he just fed up of looking at my ugly mug all day? I feel like i am letting him down. Feeling a bit upset about today tbh.
Does anyone else feel like their lo gets like this too?
Yes but I recognise it's my issue - not my dc not liking me etc. so I tried to get them out every day - stopped me going mad too.
Aw you sound like a lovely mummy. Please don't take it so personally if he pulls your hair - it's not meant in the same way as we see it - it's just him venting his frustration because he's tired and can't communicate this to you. They are just little human beings and we all enjoy a bit of novelty and variety now and then - his grandparents aren't better they are just different and show him love and attention in a different way that's all. I can guarantee you that he is aware of your presence and particularly as he gets a bit older he will probably get tetchy if you leave the room. I understand how you feel - we lavish so much time and energy on our little ones we can't help but want the same kind of devotion back but unfortunately we don't always get it or it is shown in different ways. I feel a pang of envy when my Dd's face lights up when daddy comes home but I tell myself that I give her routine, security and comfort and these are so important. Your little boy isn't bored of you at all but he will respond to novelty and you will bear the brunt of his moods because you're there. It's nothing to take personally - he really does love you and need you very much and as time goes on he will develop the ability to show you and tell you. In the meantime carry on doing what you're doing - you're doing a great job - it's the hardest job in the world and we don't get many thank yous in the early days but it doesn't mean we're not doing a great job xxx
notsoyummy - thank you for your kind post. what you wrote makes complete sense. i dont quite feel so hurt now.
had a lovely day with him and his nanna yesterday. although i was in the dentists chair for over an hour he was a very good boy watching sat on his nannas knee and i got lots of nice kisses off him.
thank you again
I think the above post sums it up perfectly.
I got to 6/7 months and felt exactly the same. I used to say to people all the time, "Please come round, she's getting bored of my face!"
I don't really have any "mummy friends" and everyone else is working most of the time. We get out and about quite a bit but family are not local either, so it's still normally just me and her.
I'm finally plucking up the courage to go to a baby group today, after seeing the way she reacted to all the LO's during her nursery visit!!
Rest assured though, you are doing a great job. My DD is not a cuddler at all, and squirms to be put down everytime, but then I know that when I walk in to get her out of her cot when she wakes up in the morning, that huge beaming smile is just for me (granted its worn off in about an hour!)
I think it's such an inbetween age though too, it must be incredibly frustrating as they are now so aware of their surroundings.
We have a little basket of toys in each room, as soon as she gets whingy, we switch rooms, and it helps massively just for a change of scenery, even sitting in fron of the bookcase is great fun for 15 mins or so! Roll on better whether when we can get out in the garden.
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