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Oh dear,sounds very stressful.My second son was very wary of strangers as a baby and everyone on my DHs side thought he was really grumpy and that he didn't like them.That used to upset me as he was a content little baby,just a bit more cautious than socially gregarious DS1. He is now a lovely smiley giggly 2 year old who plays with everyone.I would keep seeing your family in the hope that things improve as he becomes more familiar with everyone and personally wouldn't avoid certain situations but maybe I don't understand how bad it is.

Thanks Beatrix, he's usually a content smiley baby. It's just them. I don't know if I'm being cruel keeping introducing them. He starts to cry and it's as if he forgets to stop. It can go on for hours even after we have all left. Hes not like that with anyone else, even strangers. Part of me feels keeping introducing, perhaps more often might work, but he is soo soo upset.

My DS hated my SIL too! Not really anything we could do. Have to say though SIL is a bit too try hard with babies and I think it put them off!

Could you film them so he can see them but not actually be with them? I would also suggest when he's in the same room as them that they ignore (not in a mean way!) rather than try to engage him. In my experience children are always drawn to people who show them the least interest.

I agree with Disco.

Also, you could be in the trap now that YOU start to feel tense in that situation waiting for him to start crying so he picks up that somethings not "quite right" and then gets upset.

Are there any tensions in your relationship with either that your DS could be picking up?

my dd did the same with my brother, and my cousins baby did it with my aunt (the babys grandma). They both got over it before they were 3. My aunt and cousin are very similar, as are my brother and I and we always put it down to the babies being a bit freaked out by it. Don't make a big deal of it, don't force a relationship between them and they will probably grow out of it and could still be close in future.

DS hated FIL for aaages (which I found rather amusing )but got over it eventually.

Don't force it, he'll come round

Im not on my own then my DS hates my SIL he cries everytyme he sees her (hes 10 weeks) but as soon as she leaves or sumone else holds him hes fine x i do find she gets ryte up to him and is always in his face as soon as she sees him dont know wether thats any help ? X

Thanks all, we are a close family and there are no issues or tensions. We all get on. I'm guilty now of getting tense about meeting up, but my DH isn't, and he's just as bad with him. I do think they're tense so maybe omega etching in that. I think we might just take a break but that means no family get togethers and that's so sad.

The video idea is great, I'll try that! Keep them moving please, and thanks again.

Omega etching !?! Something ....