I'm really struggling with this situation and am hoping some more experienced parents can offer some advice. I'm not an experienced user of this board so please bare with me and I apologise in advance - I don't really know many of the abbreviations!
I have a 22mth old son who just refuses to eat any dinners, anywhere other than at nursery. He always used to be a good eater, we followed Baby led weaning and everything was fantastic, he would eat anything we offered, veg, fruit, meat etc. he quickly grasped using spoon and fork, we were spoilt!
When he was about 18mths old he was poorly and ended up in and out of hospital for a couple of months during this time his eating habits changed and he became a bit more fussy. During this time if he would eat anything it was an accomplishment so we were very lenient. Around Christmas he had to have his tonsils and adenoids out so that introduced yet another difficulty. His throat was sore so we were still just pleased to get him to eat!
Since he has been fully well his eating has been hit and miss. But now, over 2 months since he has been well we are just not making any progress.
He has 2 mornings at nursery a week.
On days he is with me, Breakfasts are usually one of: weetabix, ready brek, porridge or crumpets which are eaten well, he feeds himself with little mess and its a pleasant meal. He normally has a cup of milk with breakfast as well.
He might have a snack of fruit or a biscuit
Lunch is usually a (jam/ ham/ cheese/ etc) sandwich / pitta bread, that he eats well. I sometimes offer cucumber, celery & carrot, sticks with hummus and other dips, he does like to dip but eating the veg can have random success. He will always be offered fruit after lunch with me, and will eat this without fail, the boy LOVES fruit, orange, strawberries, banana, apple, grapes, blueberries, etc
Depending on how much he has eaten during the day determines if he has an afternoon snack. However, at the moment I'm avoiding anything because I want him to eat dinner.
Dinner can be anything from stew to fish fingers and chips and we never know how he will be, I can not see any pattern or reason.
Recently I have tried the following:
fish fingers, chips and beans (the meal he will normally eat no prob). I offer some cut up to use a fork and some still large as finger food one day he refused, the other he eat everything offered and asked for more fish - eating 5 fish fingers..?!?
Pasta and meatballs in a tomato sauce. Refused
Chicken, sweetcorn peas carrot in cheese sauce. Refused
Roast beef, & veg will eat potatoes but refuses to try anything else
I've also ried the anabel karmel ready meals - refused everyone offered
He sometimes eats macaroni cheese with ham, sweetcorn and peas. If he has this he will pick out the chicken and pass it to me, even out of his mouth and even if tiny pieces!
You get the idea......
When I say he refuses it, he won't even get the food to his mouth! He will tell me no and yuck, he also blows raspberry as a way if showing his dislike of it.
If I try to encourage him to eat the dinner he gets very distressed and it normally results in a mess if I push for too long (plate tipped on the floor, spoon pushed away etc)
I don't want dinner to be a horrible meal so don't push too much any more - my parents tell me I'm enabling him to win - I don't know which is right.
We eat at the table together, he has a high chair that it at the table like a big boy, we have tried special bowls/ plates and cutlery
I have tried swapping the meals, offering him a "dinner" meal at lunch time and sarnie at dinner time. He still refuses a "proper" dinner but eats the sarnie.
And now the clanger:
At nursery he will have a cooked lunch without fail and eat it all, even ask for more!
He still has a drink of formula milk before bed anything from about 4-8ozs & I don't know how long to keep offering this bit all the time he won't eat dinners I feel he needs this for the substance through the night.
He sleeps well, normally 8pm to 7am with no wakings and has about 1-1.5 hrs during the day.
So what are we doing wrong? Evening meals are often just the 2 of us as my husband works awkward shifts, but this makes no difference to his eating, I just get even more fed up when hubby is home as I feel his dad thinks its my fault (he's not said as such so might just be my insecurities)
In everything else he is a lovely little boy, happy and cheeky, he is talking well, can sign a lot of what he cant yet say, and developmentally doing well.
I've no idea of his weight, he's not skinny at all. I can't get to a health visitor clinic anymore due to work. We've not seen one since sept, but he's had lots of hospital and dr time so I wasn't worried about that. I'm probably going to try and make an appointment for one to see us soon to help with this.
Sorry this is so long! Thanks for any advice or comments
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Nearly 2 ds refuses dinner - at wits end
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CHERRYBL0SS0M · 23/03/2013 20:50
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