I'm really finding things hard with DS 2.1 and DD 5 months
and need tips to make things work/give DS positive attention and stop being so bloody cross all the time! The situation today is this (and it feels like flipping groundhog day) DD was awake around 6 chatting to himself, did a poo so DH changed him. Today he was happy to stay in his cot (which has been in his own room for about 5 days - he seems excited and happy about this) until we got up at 7 and all Hell broke loose. He's had 3 or 4 screaming tantrums, is whingy and doing things he knows will get him told off..particularly annoyingly is he's woken his sister up by shouting in her face 15 minutes into her nap and she's now totally overtired but won't go to sleep.
I know he just wants to play with me but DD cannot go to sleep on her own (even if she could I don't want to leave her in a room on her own to sleep until 6 months because of the increased risk of sids) and I can't get him to understand if he just let her go to sleep and stay asleep I'd be able to give him my 100% attention. it's not like I can read to him or anything because he just can't sit still or be quiet for a minute
I saw a HV last week who is arranging for home start to get in touch and hopefully have somebody in a couple of times a week to play with him or DD so the other can have my attention but there's an 8 week wait and I just don't know what to do in the meantime. i keep losing my patience and shouting at him and I've already slipped through the net for 2 months as I asked my GP for help with stress and he referred me for some counselling and to see the HV but they cancelled my appointment 4 times. I have no family support and don't want to ask my friends for support (I'm very pfb and dont want anyone to know im struggling) but I sometimes feel great and other times like today (when DS is climbing the walls and DD doing her nut wanting to sleep but not knowing how) where I just don't know what to do but know I can't carry on like this
I don't want to put him into childcare. I suppose what I really need is for DD to be able to fall asleep without me (and without screaming) by 6 months so I can just put her down for a nap and go and play with DS for half an hour
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struggling with toddler and baby - tips please
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NiceCupOfTeaAndASitDown · 23/03/2013 10:40
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