We have a ds who has just turned 5. Virtually since he was born, I've had the dilemma of 'do we/when do we have baby no 2?'. At first it was too expensive while ds was at nursery but he's been at school since last Sept, plus we had marriage issues to sort out. I've just turned 40 and have decided that I would like baby no2 - lots of reasons, main ones are I would like ds to have a sibling and I'm worried if I leave it any longer I'll have missed the boat. Finally broached the subject with dh tonight - can;t say I'm surprised at his reaction but I'm disappointed. Basically, he doesn't want baby no 2, reasons (until he thinks about finances and comes up with some more) are: he doesn't think he could give as much to baby 2 as he does to ds, I'm too old, there would be too much of an age gap, ds could have so much if we don't have baby no 2, his job takes him away, how will I cope? Thing is, I think that if he refuses to go for it, I will feel SOOOO resentful, as I would be deprived of something that I won't have the chance to go for again if we don't do it soon. If we split up, he could still have another baby with another partner but I couldn't. When we were trying for ds, he was resentful at times, and worried about finances, but now has said he wouldn't change things for the world. I'm sure he thinks that the discussion we've had is the end of the story and I won't raise it again. However, I want to try to persuade him - has anyone else been in this situation? Any tips??
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