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How well does your DH interact with your DCs?(8 Posts)
Ah - so it is more fear (i.e. he knows he's not great, but is running away from it rather than addressing it) than laziness, so while frustrating now, at least that's something.
I think you may have to drag him along to a few organised things and then disappear in the first few minutes, only showing back up again half an hour or so later (isn't it amazing how pregnancy vomitting can hit at any time? )
Seriously though, hope you get through the bad patch and are able to enjoy your current, and expanding, family. Whatever about DH, DS and new arrivals will certainly do well with you as a mother from the sounds of it.
Congratulations on the impending arrivals.
To help resolve the lack of interaction - how open do you think he'd be to having someone (could use a relative or friend) video your whole family's interactions over a day or two? Watching it back might allow him to realise things for himself.
If you were to book the two of them into a course of weekly activity (swimming/playgroup type thing) with a minimal cost, would DH be likely to go if the activity had been pre-paid for?
Also, ahead of your next speech therapy session, maybe call the therapist and ask if they could include something on the length of face-to-face interaction necessary to support DS (and something on why using a screen is too passive to work).
Hope you manage to find a solution.
Dh gets up with dd and gives her breakfast while I bf ds. When he comes home from work and on weekends he plays with her, reads to her, baths her etc. She likes tv as well, and sometimes dh or I will play on phone or computer while she is watching her cinderella, but not instead of playing.
What's DH's reasoning for the lack of interaction? Is he scared to for some obscure reason, or does he think that voices on a screen will do just as well (they won't)?
DH here gets up with small child here (26 months) every morning before work, and then generally tries to get home by 7.30 so he can do bedtime routine. They also have Saturday as their 'adventure' day and go off travelling on the buses and trains to various places together.
Your DH isn't that unusual unfortunately though. Out of my circle of friends with children - four would be similar to my DH, the other three are more like yours and only interested when it suits them.
Hope you work through it soon - it must be very frustrating, particularly if DS needs 'live' rather than screen interaction to help his language.
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