She does have lots of lovely 'quality' attention and play, as well as being able to play by herself happily with soft toys, dolls house etc.
The whining is just incessant at the moment. About anything - often for more and more of whatever she's just had (food, TV, cuddles, stories, playing), although has always been told what she can have (eg 'this is the last story' or 'only one banana'). The whining quickly escalates to big screamy tantrums when she realises she's not getting whatever it is she wants.
Just wondered how others deal with whiners (and hoping some tales will cheer me up). We have a 6mo DS, so I know a lot of this is about attention - I try my best with that!
I don't know but I'm watching with interest as I have a similar 3yo! Minus the tantrums though. He is driving me mad as he will not accept a 'no' first time, it has to be followed up with 'Why?!'... Argh!
My 3 year old is exactly the same at the moment. I think he's probably got used to lots of treats and excitement over the Christmas period and is now struggling with the mundane / routine/ any kind of rules!
I just try my best to make rules and decisions clear, then IGNORE he whining and subsequent tantrums as far as possible. He does stop after a while when he realises it's getting nowhere. If there are others around thus going an audience, then I remove him from the room to a quiet place to screamitout calm down.
I do think 3 year olds are a challenge though! Brighter than 2 year olds and not as settled as 4 year olds!
DD isn't 3 yet and isn't a huge whinger, but we did the "go out into the hall until you have calmed down" today, a variant on our normal going into the hall for 2 min when she is naughty. She took herself out, composed herself and let herself back into the lounge. I was amazed as it worked very quickly and she was very willing to go. Would that work or have you already tried it?
I used to say "oh I'm sorry dd, I cannot hear whining, only proper talking" and then ignore. Or repeat and ignore. She soon stopped and asked for whatver she wanted in proper tones.
At aged 5 she hardly ever whines, but the attitude she has is apalling
I tell her not to whine as I don't like the noise and to speak properly then I explain she can't have x y or z then she tantrums anyway and I ignore haha no solution I've come across she is just 'three'
As Shel says above, I say 'you know I don't respond to whineing, say it in a normal voice please'.
Tantrums - I ignore and leave the room, I will keep going back every couple of minutes or so asking if she wants a cuddle until I get an affirmative and then we're ok.
I also often leave room if she's winding me up and I am 'on the edge' so to speak - they are very trying!
Whining, tantrums - moods swinging from happy singing to kicking and screaming, crying over the most nonsensical little thing,... constantly. I'm there. DS 3, has started hitting me, pulling my hair, calling me names - just really losing control of himself when he is angry. It's tiring. I wonder what I'm doing wrong, but I always haul him up for bad behaviour. I wish I had answers!
Whining crying hysterical over the most trivial things numerous times a day then snaps out of it and is all jolly and happy. I'm left frazzled and total wrung out.
My DD went through this, got out the other side and is now doing it again (will be 5 next week) and it's driving me mad! I tell her now, as I told her then, that I dont understand what she is saying and if she wants to talk to me to talk to me properly worked better when she was three!
I still maintain who ever came up with the phrase terrible twos never made it to three!! My girls are 4.5 now. but the 12 months of being 3yrs old was painful! whining, tantrums, I will never forget the foot stomp with angry crossed arms! I used time out and kept consistant and eventually it did ease. They still try it every now and then. DT1 is particularly whiny but I think it's due to tiredness after school. I still don't repond to her whining.
I vacilate between "I don't understand when you are speaking like that" and trying to voice whatever feelings DC has at that point and end up hugging and generally bombarding with love. But as I've had quite a lot of bereavement in the family recently I tend to go the the former and feel guilty about it.
I whine back at ds2 who is 3, it makes him laugh and he snaps out of it.
I also talk like a sulky teenager to both my teens when they're being hard work and they're so embarrassed by me they snap out of it too, well sometimes.
Dd1 just turned three and is exactly the same. It's reassuring o know she's not telly one as its really wearing me downat the moment and I am not enjoying her.
