DS2 was conceived far earlier than I was ready for but I just decided to grit my teeth and get on with it. The pregnancy was difficult, and ever since it has just been one trial after another. DS1 and DS2 have both spent time in hospital, we have been constantly unwell; DS2 had reflux (and still does) so screamed for first 3 months; he fed well, then fussed so badly that I nearly gave up breastfeeding; then he pent 6 weeks screaming for hours at bedtime and waking up screaming during the night (I finally found a solution to that); now he screams at everything I do. If I leave the room, he screams. If I don't feed him at the same time on the dot every day, he screams. If he wants more food, he screams. If he goes from sitting to lying down, he screams. If I run out of breast milk before he's ready to stop (a constant problem since I have not been able to get my supply fully up since he had feeding problems about 4 months, even though I worked v hard to keep feeding him myself), he screams. If we get into the car, he screams. If I put him in his pramsuit, he screams.
I understand that he has a very limited ability to communicate, but he has no gears between quiet and literally screaming.
It's driving me crazy. I knew when I had him that DS1 was an easy baby, and I have worked hard to try and make sure that my relationship with him still has some quality to it after I had DS2 - luckily he is forgiving enough that this has worked. But although I have no doubt that I love DS2, I really can't stand being with him a lot of the time. Not only do I not want to spend the precious few moments we have alone together playing with him and teaching him like I did with DS1, but I feel like our relationship is becoming abusive - he screams at me a hundred times a day and by the end of the day I want to scream back at him.
I can't give him as much attention as I did DS1, and I know he has had a hard time of it during his tiny life, always having a cold or stomach upset or worse, and with the reflux, and with having a sibling to compete for attention with. But I am really, really struggling with him.
Does anyone have any coping strategies for this, or any reassuring words? Thanks.
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DS1 a great baby, DS2 (8 months) is driving me mad and sad...any reassuring advice?
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firstimeforeverything · 16/01/2013 19:37
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