Did anyone have anxiety while pregnant and the baby be absolutely fine?(33 Posts)
Hi i'm not sure if this is the best place to post but I have been suffering from anxiety on/off throughout this pregnancy. Sometimes just teary sometimes really distraught. It could just be hormones I guess but I am now 35 weeks and as I gets closer I am really worried I could have harmed the baby in some way by worrying so much. Did anyone else suffer from a lot of crying, anxiety and everything turn out just fine?? Many thanks x
Hi piperlght yes I had anxiety and it didn't harm the baby.
I developed a habit of rubbing my bump slowly and talking to the baby :"Mummy is feeling anxious right now, but don't worry darling it's not your fault / you don't have to worry about it / I'm aware of it and looking after us both". I always figured if the baby could sense a rush of anxiety that I could intentionally send a reassuring calming message too.
Have you found some techniques that work for you?
28 weeks and suffer horrible anxiety and I'm worried all the time!!! I feel like my baby is going to come out harmed because of my stress. Cortisol releases and apparently causes issues! Anyone have this and their baby be ok?
Yes I worried constantly due to previous pregnancy losses. I tried to keep my mind occupied as much as possible and kept repeating that this would be my 'take home' baby and tried to be positive. It helped a bit. It's hard not to worry I know. DS is only 14 weeks old but he's so chilled out and doesn't appear to be in any way affected from what I can tell. Good luck with your pregnancy and baby
This thread is quite old, so I'm not sure that the original posters will still be checking it. All their advice is still valid though - it sounds like you need to be referred to a specialist midwife or similar. Perhaps your GP is the best person to begin with as they will know about your current prescription. If you are really struggling to leave the house then maybe ask if they can make a house call?
Hi. I am 6 weeks pregnant. I suffer with anxiety and is controlled with sertraline 150g. Since i found out i was pregnant i have been so bad with the anxiety. My bed is my safe place. I am self employed and have had to move my appointments as afraid to go in. Is this normal. Help......
I too was very stressed and anxious during my pregnancy but my 5 month old is asleep on me right now and she is wonderful.
I had a very stressful job plus we were renovating the bedrooms in our house (the rest is still unrenovated but liveable and we are starting more work now things have settled). We spent half of my pregnancy living in the front room downstairs, with our stuff and dust everywhere plus I was doing lots of DIY on top of my job. I remember my DH finding me bawling and he asked what was wrong, I responded with "I don't know" and bawled some more. My mum almost died when she had my elder brother as she had complications from pre-eclampsia, he was born 7 weeks early (this was in the 70s mind so preemie care isn't what it is now).
Best thing I did for myself: go on maternity quite early. I had 4 weeks holiday and 4 weeks maternity before baby arrived (we had both my MIL and Mum stay during some of that time). As soon as I finished work I found my SPD and stress levels much more manageable.
Yes, I had three consecutive miscarriages and worried my way through the whole of my next pregnancy. I had two episodes of bleeding too which didn't help. Fast forward and I had a perfect, healthy, full term baby who is so chilled and laid back it is unbelievable.
Hope this helps to reassure you, good luck
Yes. I worried constantly and cried several times a day from sheer anxiety and stress. When I was pg with dd2 that twat Oliver James came on the radio and did his crappy unhelpful spiel about maternal stress and I sobbed and sobbed. Both my dcs were born utterly relaxed, bf well at once, slept pretty well early on, and are still confident and secure. dc2 - throughout whose pregnancy I was probably worse - is the most relaxed and cheerful baby / toddler you have ever seen and people stop in shops to comment on it (sneaking in a boast there, sorry, but on the other hand I am not boasting because no way can I take credit for this, gibbering wreck that I was and sometimes am).
DON'T WORRY! impossible, I know, but still, try not to. Good luck. all will be well.
Yes, my dad died from cancer and I had a mc 2 days later, I found out I was of when realizing I hadn't had a period after the mc. I found it very difficult to cope with the idea of being pg. delayed telling people till almost 20 and then ended up having an amino and well just didn't feel the same as I did when I was pg with my dd.
I knew my mw well from having dd and burst into tears telling her how I just didn't feel the same and was worried about how I was feeling. She insisted I saw the gp feeling I was depressed. I did see him but tbh I didn't want to take ad so played more on my grief than depression. But she kept an eye in me and I found confiding completely in my dh very helpful.
Anyway, ds is now 16 months and whilst I wished he would sleep more that really is the only thing I would change
You will get through this.
I was a mess. I knew the pregnancy wouldn't last. I would miscarry then when I got to the 20 week scan iI was sure there would be a problem. then I was sure we would die in labor. She is two now and doing fine so far ;)
Coolyule- good god I can truly understand why you would be anxious with a capital A.It as put my fears into a bit if context I guess. But when in fight or flight mode I almost feel the knots of whatever in my system and think they can't do baby much good. Anyway, a big thank you, your story makes me more relaxed and your dd sounds lovely. I don't know if hormones are easing off but I've had a good few days and actually getting excited about neeting my new Ds! X
It took us four years of fertility treatment to conceive DD, and I was told I was at a higher risk of mc due to PCOS.
When I was 12 weeks DH deployed to Afghanistan for six months and wasn't due back til two weeks after my due date, so I had the worry of him being possibly wounded or killed, on top of the worry re MC. I only got to speak to him every few days, although sometimes it was up to a couple of weeks between phone calls.
I was living alone in Germany, with no family support, and working in a stressful job whilst also running a house, all the finances, sorting out for the baby etc.
My dad had a quadruple bypass whilst I was pregnant.
My disabled mum had a fall.
We have a family history of SIDS so I was terrified about DD's safety after she was born. We were told we were getting put on the CONI programme throughout my pregnancy, but three weeks before my due date we were told funding had been withdrawn (luckily we got it back just after she was born).
I developed GD and had to be induced early.
I developed complications and was handed a leaflet about possible outcomes with no actual explanation - top of the list - stillbirth.
Due to this my consultant and GP contacted the Army and demanded that my DH be brought back from Afghanistan. He was home within 24 hours, the following day I went in to hospital.
I was MASSIVELY anxious throughout my pregnancy, and for months after due to the SIDS thing.....
DD is THE most laidback, happy child I have ever met - and I'm not being PFB, everyone says it (including people who don't like me hehehe!)
She slept through from five weeks, plays happily on her own, isn't clingy, loves people, eats anything and is ALWAYS smiling.
Whilst I was pregnant I read an article that says that being stressed during pregnancy leads to unsettled babies.... All I can say is DD clearly didn't read the article .
Your baby will be absolutely fine, don't worry.
In fact I think I posted on here about really worrying something terrible was going to happen to the baby and seeing "signs" everywhere (even though I don't do woo)
I think it's perfectly normal. Especially given all you have been through recently
Jac1978- many thanks for a lovely reply, and it makes total sense and I'm going to try and enjoy the last few weeks of this pregnancy if it bloody kills me :-) Spoke to midwives and to be honest I find them bloody useless and dismissive. She pratically laughs when I say I've been worrying about the baby, anxiety and its met with "Yeah most people worry about it, it's normal" and I'm left feeling as a number. However, I have been and seen a cbt counsellor who once I have had the baby is referring me to a hormone speacialist as she says there is evidence that your hormones affect levels of anxiey and people with generalised anxiety are known to have a hormonal thing going on. Not sure of what it is or anymore than that as I can't do anything til baby arrives but I'm glad I mentioned how bad I got when near my monthly cycle.
I think it could be hormones but also it could be a natural reaction to all the loss you've experienced. We often have an overwhelming feeling of dread when we feel things are out of our control and your losses have taught you to feel overwhelmed by what might happen. It might help you to write down your fears as they happen and talk them through with your midwife and perhaps she can reassure you about how unlikely these things are to happen. Don't beat yourself up though - it is a huge thing to be carrying a little life inside you and it's only natural to worry about it and feel protective of it. You haven't harmed your baby with being anxious at all but it may help your own sanity if you get into the habit of calming yourself down with positive thoughts whenever you feel a wave of panic coming on or perhaps do something that makes you feel relaxed that isn't baby related. You and your baby will be fine this time because you're a good person and some luck is due your way.
God yes i think i cried everyday my grandad had terminal cancer throughout my pregnancy which effected his mind and he kept telling me that the fetuses were all dying i started to think it was tempting fate and was really upset, then 3 weeks from my due date we were told he had 3 week to live i then became convinced that DS would be born on the day he died and he would forever be a horrible reminder of losing my grandad and no one would want to see him!
As it was DS was fine my grandad died 4 days later but my lovely gran says DS got her through a new little life to hold on to
I was very anxious with ds1 and have read since that there is a type of depression which is anteNatal rather than post natal. I didn't think I was depressed, just worried but I think that was what I had. It disappeared when ds1 born (he's 14 now) and he was fine. Had 3 other pregnancies since and wasn't anywhere near as bad with them. Think the first time I was anxious because I had had a miscarriage and was worried it would happen again. Definitely linked to hormones I think,
Well I didn't even know what anxiety/panic was until I gave birth to DS. It was most certainly hormonal for me. Used to be bad two weeks before periods too. It's hell. Not sure if it's just learned behaviour now though. I really hope I doesn't get even worse once DC2 is born. Nice to know I'm not alone :-)
Wow, so glad I posted, does anyone think that this level of anxiety is pregnancy hormone related? It's just before I was pregnant I used to get negative thoughts, mini episodes of anxiety just as I was due on each month. I used to get tearful and down and could then pretty much pinpoint the time of month.
I'm a nutter pregnant. Huge anxiety and depression, constant thoughts of stillbirth and intrusive thoughts. Regular panic attacks, lots of crying.
I have three perfectly healthy children.
I receive treatment for anxiety and had a healthy baby boy 7 months ago I was frantic about for the whole pregnancy. I thought every symptom of absence of symptoms of pregnancy was a bad sign, had numerous reassurance scans and tracings and would worry non stop something would go wrong. I still worry now but look back and wish I could have enjoyed the pregnancy more. LO is sitting playing with Xmas toys now.
Very chilled out, smiley 7 month old here. Massive anxiety all through his pg as had 4 miscarriages before - does not seem to have had the slightest impact on the baby.
Maybe the clairvoyant (if that is worrying you still) was referring to your mc?
Had a lot to worry about during last pregnancy - v stressed. DC has been a very easy, chilled out, confident child.
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