Feeling like a complete failure tonight and think I must be a bad mother. I cried over DD at the last feed and she looked horrified and started crying too. :-(
It's just ... everything. I don't think I'm getting anything right. DD is 16 weeks and I feel like I'm still floundering with a newborn. Bf-ing still hurts because she chews; I've asked and asked for help at the local clinic and cafe but no one has come up with anything. A friend's baby the same age has started teething and I'm terrified DD will start soon too, but I don't want to have to go over to ff. The only position I've ever been able to manage with her is rugby ball, and now she's getting too big for that, I can't find another that's comfortable for me - and I don't think they're comfortable for her either as she keeps coming off and crying.
I know I'm lucky that she sleeps at night (midnight to 7 usually) but the evenings are hell. She won't be put down for more than 10 minutes, whether she's awake or asleep when I put her down. Then I can't bear to leave her screaming so I pick her up and bring her downstairs, and feel guilty about it. Sometimes she'll sleep on me or DH, but sometimes she just screams, and we rock her and carry her round and everything but it's no good. And she seems to hate daytime naps; she screams when she's tired but really fights sleep. If I'm lucky I spend 45 minutes trying to soothe her for 30 minutes sleep - again only on me.
I'm sure I'm getting it all wrong and I don't know what to do. I want someone to come round and watch and then tell me what to do, but there isn't anyone. All the books seem to be very firmly in one camp - strict routines or full-on attachment parenting - and I'm somewhere in the middle, not fitting in anywhere.
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aliphil · 06/12/2012 21:37
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