There's a lot of chats in the playground about 'being in love' and boys teasing girls and girls wanting to kiss boys. All normal play in the playground I think.
DS has a 'girlfriend' in his class and sometimes the other boys tease him because of it. It's a girl best friend and they play really well together, but DS gets a bit teased for being best friend with a girl.
Now last night, he said to me, completely out of the blue, 'can I get married to a boy when I grow up?'
My answer was 'yes of course. It doesn't happen often but you can. But you have many many years before you get married so you don't have to decide now'.
That was the end of the conversation, he carried on eating, and we talked about his day at school.
I don't want to debate the rights and wrong of gay/lesbian marriage, but I'd like to know what your answer would have been. Did I say the right thing?
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DS: 'Mum can I marry a man?'
anothercuppaplease · 05/12/2012 14:45
Sounds like a good answer to me!
First time dd said she was going to marry a girl ds told her she couldn't so I told them both that we can marry whoever we choose except mummy, daddy or each other. Now he just tells her she has to wait until she is grown up 
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Sounds like a good answer to me. My kids have two mummies and DS asked if he could marry a women like I did
Sounds fine to me, apart from the not very often. When ds asked me I said 'of course'. Now he tells me he will have 2 husbands and 2 wives 
DD asked me if she could marry a lady when she grows up. I just said yes, she could if that's what she wanted. Good she said, I can marry you then Mummy 
Aged about 3, my dd1 asked if she could marry a girl. I told her that she could, if she wanted to, when she grew up. A year or so later, when she announced her engagement to her baby sister, I had to clarify things a bit .
Perfect answer I think.
When ds was about 6yrs, he came to me sobbing his heart out. I gave him a cuddle and asked him what was wrong. He told me he was worried about how he'd know whether to marry dd1 (older) or dd2 (younger) when he's a grown up. 
I told him that part of growing up is learning the answers to all these questions, and that he would know by the time he was a grown up he would know the best person for him would be. they all act married though with all the bickering
They are so sweet aren't they :)
I don't even tell them they can't marry Mummy, Daddy, siblings etc - they'll work that out before they're old enough to actually do it
My friends little boy & his best friend have been 'going to get married' and tell each other they love each other - it is so sweet, this has been going on since they were 3 - they are now 8. Just this week he's decided he's not going to marry him now... because the friend likes to play rugby at lunchtime and he doesn't I also think he's discovered girls, there's one little one who gets mentioned all the time and he gets that little funny smile when he says her name - it really is adorable.
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