Advanced search

What's for lunch today? Take inspiration from Mumsnetters' tried-and-tested recipes in our Top Bananas! cookbook - now under £10

Find out more

Bedtime bath then feed or feed then bath

(16 Posts)
sharond101 Sat 17-Nov-12 18:23:36

According to bsby whisperer skeep book I do it all wromg and should be feeding my baby then playing then sleep and bedtime shoukd be feed then bath then sleep. Ds of 6mo always has bath then feeds to sleep. He often naps after a feed too. Is this really so wrong and if so how do I change it?

BertieBotts Sat 17-Nov-12 18:25:31

No! If it works, don't change it because of something you read in a book - utter madness grin

MegBusset Sat 17-Nov-12 18:33:45

Ignore the book! Do what works for you smile

MegBusset Sat 17-Nov-12 18:34:44

Iirc I used to feed, then bathe, then feed again in the hope it would keep 'em fuller longer it never worked

AThingInYourLife Sat 17-Nov-12 18:36:54

Feed, bath, feed, sleep

How do you get a baby to sleep without feeding them?

QTPie Sat 17-Nov-12 18:41:23

At 6 months, DS used to have a 6pm feed a 7.30 bath, then feed to sleep (so about 8pm).

As others have said, if what you are doing works for you, then why stop?

Lavenderhoney Sat 17-Nov-12 18:48:16

If it works for you and your baby don't change it!! Your ds sounds very happy. Ds hasnt read the booksmile I used to bath then bf. they always want milk before bed and a cuddle, and so do I, (bf til 2, now cows milk) and stories in bed.

Baby books are fine, but by and large are suggestions that fit your way of doing things or not. Like advice on mnsmile . And your baby's way of doing things. All babies are different.

Eskarina Sat 17-Nov-12 19:27:26

Dd (now 14m) has always had bath then feed and at 6m it would have been feed feed and more feed all through the bloody night but she never fell asleep on the bottle. I would tend to agree with the others that if it works for you and your dc then don't change it. The point the bw is trying to make is that she doesn't think the association between feeding and sleep is a good one as one of her aims is to get babies to self settle, ie go down wide awake, kick about a bit then go to sleep. She misses out the bit where they scream blue murder because they don't want to be put down!

GoldPlatedNineDoors Sat 17-Nov-12 19:29:38

We do teeth - bath - bottle - bed. ONce dd gets to one, we are going to do bath - cup of milk with a story - teeth - bed.

Sirzy Sat 17-Nov-12 19:30:30

If it works do it. No book knows you and your child!

QTPie Sat 17-Nov-12 19:52:58

Yes, we did swap to "beaker of milk, bath, brush teeth, story, cuddle, bed", but not until about 20 months old.

Boomerwang Sat 17-Nov-12 22:08:41

My 8 month old is petrified of the bath so she hasn't had one for weeks. She gets a flannel all over. When I did bathe her (I was hoping she'd get used to it) it was always before a last feed and then bed. I couldn't feed her and then have her screaming and possibly puking while in the bath.

Clumsasaurus Sat 17-Nov-12 22:21:55

Having just tried 2 days if EASY after convincing myself feeding to sleep was wrong... We have given up. 2 days with a crying baby who is usually a happy little thing was enough to make me give it up and go back to feeding to sleep and we will continue to!!

QTPie Sat 17-Nov-12 22:34:24

Like all baby books/methods - take the "bits and pieces" that suit and ignore the rest.

We fed to sleep until DS no longer drifted off at the end of the feed (I have a feeling that it was about 14 months, but cannot remember exactly...). When we got to that point, we started settling him another way (for us it was hand-holding/patting/stroking). If feeding to sleep suits, then it is great to carry on.

starfishmummy Sat 17-Nov-12 22:37:50

Bath then feed. If we had fed then bathed Ds would have brought the feed back up.

sharond101 Sat 17-Nov-12 22:45:52

Thank you I feel less of a failure now.Ds loves his bath&kicks&splashes.without milk after he would never sleep.

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now