We moved dd1 into a bed about 6 weeks ago, thinking naively that she would be settled in it by the time dd2 arrived. Dd2 is now 1 week old and our plan has completely backfired.
Dd1 is struggling to adjust to life with a sibling and missing her mummy (had emcs so finding it difficult to play with dd as I usually do)
Anyway, bedtimes are a nightmare. She spends up to 2 hours every night getting out of bed. Dh sits outside her bedroom door and puts her back each time supernanny-style but she is just getting worse.
When she was in her cot still she would go straight to sleep at 7pm, wake at 7:15am and have a 2hr nap every afternoon. Now she only sleeps about 8:30-6am and for the past couple of days has had NO nap at all because she just won't stay in her bed.
So what do we do?
- Put the cot back up? This would be a massive effort as it has been dismantled and sent to in-laws and would mean that dd2 doesn't have a cot (the new bed is a double-decker one to fit them both in)
- Persevere and pray that she gets better?
- introduce a duvet in the hope that it will make bedtime seem more grown-up and appealing? She currently sleeps in a sleeping bag. Would a duvet make it more difficult for her to get out of bed? It would certainly be more difficult to put her in each time.
- Change the bedtime routine to break the bad habit? Maybe by putting her in bed for her story so that she has time to wind down in there and get comfy.
- Ditch the nap entirely? Although the past couple of afternoons have been truly hellish as a result.
- Try some sort of reward system for staying in bed? Not sure this would work as she is only just 2yo and by the time we could reward her for staying in bed (ie the next morning) surely she'd not make the link.
Sorry this is so long. We're getting desperate!!!