Hi all,
My 13, nearly 14 year old stepdaughter has been living with us since July 2011. We have residence, and she left her mother of her own accord as mum is alcoholic and SD had simply had enough. Whilst living with mum she didn't have a computer or smart phone, barely anything that most teens take for granted nowadays. We always found that when she was living with mum and came to us for weekend or holiday contact, she was wanting to be on our computer constantly, which we accepted (to a point) because we knew she had it rough at her mum's.
Anyway, since living with us she has her own laptop and smart phone. But, her usage is phenomenal, and I just wondered how other parents restrict usage. We have now implemented a 2 hour a day maximum rule of computer/phone time, as we believe that kids should be out and about with their friends (weather permitting), not conducting their entire lives on a computer screen! She's generally okay with this, or was during the Summer months, but we're finding that she's being more sneaky now and goes on her laptop in her room when we've told her not to. Sometimes we have to actually take it away from her simply to encourage her to go and hang out with friends that come to the door for her.
I wonder if our 2 hour a day max limit is mean? She says (as all teens do) 'but so and so is allowed on their computer all day!', to which we tell her that that's up to so and so's parents, but we want her to enjoy a life outside of home and her computer. Because she did have such a rough time with mum and has been having counselling for nigh on 10 months because of it, we are a tad reluctant to put too many restrictions on her. When she was living with her mum, she was the adult and had far too much responsibility for a child. She endured poverty and neglect for much of her young life. However, both my husband and I feel very strongly about limiting her time sat staring at a computer screen.
What do others do with their teens?
Thanks.
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NikNox41 · 11/11/2012 13:16
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