Advanced search

What's for lunch today? Take inspiration from Mumsnetters' tried-and-tested recipes in our Top Bananas! cookbook

Find out more

My poor little ds, pls read and advise

(20 Posts)
Kormachameleon Wed 07-Nov-12 19:03:16

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

madwomanintheattic Wed 07-Nov-12 19:05:30

Discuss with ct.

Have you have parent eve yet?

Ask about friendship circles and social groups etc. school should have lots of tricks up their sleeves.

Kormachameleon Wed 07-Nov-12 19:08:05

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Welovecouscous Wed 07-Nov-12 19:09:01

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

PhyllisDoris Wed 07-Nov-12 19:14:56

Oh bless him. Does he do any after school clubs or activities such as Beavers or Cubs, or anything else. He might meet different kids, or even the same kids might be different in a different setting.
How could you help him be the cool kid? Swish trainers or something?
But kids friendship groups change with the wind and I'm sure it will work out before too long. Perhaps a word with the teacher - he might be able to quietly change class. Otherwise, could she give him jobs in playtime, with someone else, to make playtime seem less lonely and help him have something to bond with someone else over.

madwomanintheattic Wed 07-Nov-12 19:16:28

Just give ct a call. They would want to know, and will be able to work to solution.

Kormachameleon Wed 07-Nov-12 19:20:33

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

unexpectediteminbaggingarea Wed 07-Nov-12 19:22:41

yy to scouts, worked brilliantly for my 8yo nephew in exactly the same boat. Ditto clubs ie taekwondo, sports, chess, whatever he's into. It is somewhere to go with a purpose, rather than just having to socialise for socialising's sake.

so sorry. I know how desperately sad we were for my nephew, but he's ok now,honestly.

LynetteScavo Wed 07-Nov-12 19:27:51

I think the problem is that there are only 18 in the year group. So probably only around 9 boys? I can see how it can happen that one boy, for no fault of his own, somehow isn't included with the other children.

Is he having many people over for tea, to play at the weekend, sleepovers? Maybe you could host some?

Kormachameleon Wed 07-Nov-12 19:33:30

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Cynner Wed 07-Nov-12 19:38:00

Korea, nothing much worse as a mum, than your child having a hurt you can't fix or slap a plaster on...wishing you all a good night...

lljkk Wed 07-Nov-12 19:40:09

What is CT? Coz I have similar problems with DS8, and I fear they will only get worse. I have found that yrs 4-5 is when the kids become acutely aware of their social status, or lack thereof. Some kids don't mind being outsiders, but for those who do it's very painful.

If he has had recent invites to tea (well, to anything), Korma, then he is doing far better than my DS.

madwomanintheattic Wed 07-Nov-12 19:49:11

Class teacher

lljkk Wed 07-Nov-12 19:50:16

Ah, well, good luck to OP. CTs haven't been much use to use in that respect.

PhyllisDoris Wed 07-Nov-12 19:50:39

Can you host at weekends?

unexpectediteminbaggingarea Wed 07-Nov-12 19:51:19

good luck to lljkk and korma. I really hope it gets better for both your ds.

Kormachameleon Wed 07-Nov-12 20:28:08

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Cynner Wed 07-Nov-12 21:00:18

Korma..not Korea that iPad insists is the word I meant. Tomorrow's plan sounds terrific to me. A nice low key kind of day.
I wept so hard after being informed by school that ds was the subject of bullying. Interestingly, He did not appear as upset as his protective mum.
I tried to take my cues from him, chatting when he wanted to chat, letting him be when he wanted his privacy..

Goldenjubilee10 Thu 08-Nov-12 17:49:23

Could you invite a friend for tea or to soft play at the weekend? We work all week and this is how we reciprocate.

ChippingInLovesAutumn Thu 08-Nov-12 17:59:01

I think the best thing to do is invite friends over/out for the day/for sleepovers at the weekend. I know it's hard when you work all week, but out of school relationships really do help.

As you haven't posted I assume you didn't have a duvet day sad

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now