"I need a wee/poo!" (after bedtime)?

[QTPie]

DS (2 years 9 months) is very newly potty trained (we started 8 days ago) and doing excellently - 3 accidents in the 8 days. He is still in nappies at night and for his nap (generally being woken from his nap dry, but wakes up before us in the morning and takes the opportunity fir a big weeee!). He is in normal pants the rest of the day.

Anyway, he now has started saying "wee wee!" or "poo!" after he has been put to bed (he does still sit on the potty whilst his bath is being run - so has opportunity before bed). 4 times out of 5, he doesn't actually go. Tonight he did do a fairly small wee the first time, nothing the second time (he had said that he abated a poo).

I really want to encourage him to use the potty (and not his nappy - esoecially poos: he was a closet bedtime poo-er...) and show lots of patience with the whole potty thing, but it is really stringing bedtime out and I think that he is taking advantage...

How do people handle the requests for potty after bedtime?

[JiltedJohnsJulie]

Is his nappy dry in the mornings? Could you put him in pants and put the potty in his bedroom and let him get on with it?

[MrsMangoBiscuit]

DD (nearly 3) did this for a while. We would pick her up, take her to the bathroom and put her on the loo, then stand and wait, all in near silence, and only the landing light on. She soon learnt that it wasn't a lot of fun, and has now stopped doing it to delay, but will say if she really does need the loo.

[trixie123]

first of all, I am v jealous of your potty training success. DS is 3.3, has been training for near on 6 months and still won't poo except in his pants . Maybe sit him on JUST before getting into bed and say this is it, last chance. Maybe use a pull up rather than nappy at night and put a potty in his room as well so he can go if he wants to.

[valiumredhead]

I used to put a potty by ds's bed - so he could still do a wee if desperate. Soon stopped stringing bed time out

[BlameItOnTheBogey]

We had this. My tactic was to go in but not engage. Lift them on the loo and return to bed without talking. Seemed to work.

[QTPie]

Thanks very much :)

Trixie, at the moment, potty training is a mixed blessing ;) (I have to do it now - DS needs to be toilet trained before starting preschool, at 3. With various other commitments coming up - surgery on me, Christmas, trip to LA and skiing - now is the best time...)

Was strict last night. He said "wee wee!" after bed. I took him to the potty (in the bathroom), sat him on it, nothing, gave him two minute warning, said "this is your only chance, no more potty". He didn't, nappy back on, back into bedroom, bed, kisses, good night, went to sit in my room to wait for him to settle (creaky stairs...). Literally two minutes later, distressed crying. Went in (do if distressed, don't if just whinging), "poo!!! poo!" and I could smell it. Changed his nappy, good night again, hugs again, and he went to sleep. He had done a substantial amount of poos that evening, but had been trying not to poo for a couple of days (so it caught up with him...)

Apart from last night, nappies have been dry and clean in the morning. Have been tempted to go to pants at night, but might wait a bit longer! He is still resisting pooing on the potty somewhat, so will wait for him to become relaxed with that before I get some waterproof bed sheets and give a go with no nappy at nights...

He is definitely using potty as a stalling technique at bedtimes... it is just so hard to know if he is bluffing... :(