biscuitrs and sweets

[daisygatsby]

so this is the age old problem of grandparents giving ds (2.8) too many biscuits and sweets. he is a fussy eater as it is, but generally eats an ok diet during the week at creche, i do have problems giving him meals at home. as a result it dont like him eating too many biscuits etc. i do understand the whole thing about them not doing any harm in moderation, but we see them often enough for it to be more than moderation.

we were there yesterday and i saw fil give him a packet of biscuits, then i saw him opening another one for him and i said no more biscuits and he went ahead and gave him one anyway. then mil wanted to give him some choc buttons and i said no; i nipped out to shops and when i returned he had eaten said buttons.

im quite cross about them ignoring my wishes, and also bewildered that they think its ok to give a 2 year old two packets of biscuits (mini ones) and a packet of buttons in the space of about two hours!

didnt mean this to sound like an aibu, but just wondering if i should relax about it all and how others have handled this

[Metalhead]

I don't think you're being unreasonable, and if it was my child I would certainly have words with the GPs! We don't give chocolate or ice cream or anything like that at home, although DD does get some at nursery. But 2 packets of biscuits AND chocolate buttons is definitely too much. I think you're well within your rights to be cross, and I'd tell them very firmly that you think this is unacceptable (especially since you'd already told them no).

[daisygatsby]

thanks metal. I know its not a huge deal, but really on top of the fact Id said no, its a bit cheeky really. and it just really bothers me that they cant see that is a bad diet for a two year old - for anyone really!

[midseasonsale]

Have words with the GP's. Tell them to find healthy treats instead.

[JiltedJohnsJulie]

How often is it, once, twice a week or more?

[WipsGlitter]

How many biscuits?

[matana]

I have to say that i'm of the opinion "what happens at nanny's stays at nanny's" and my parents often spoil my DS rotten when i'm not around. That said, when i am there, they will always ask if it's ok first before giving DS a biscuit and generally i am ok with a few treats. I think children begin to understand that different people have different rules and will adapt accordingly. And yes, sometimes they will exploit it

But the thing i would certainly have an issue with is the fact that they ignored your wishes and undermined you. That is what you have to tackle, not necessarily that they gave him biscuits.

[daisygatsby]

jilted on average once a week, which i dont mind at all, but for example this week we're going to be there 2 or three times and i just think thats too much.

matana im totally ok with treats, and i do give them myself, but to be giving three treats in the space of a couple hours, well, thats not a treat is it. its just a crap diet.

i am really bothered about the fact that they undermined me, but im really terrible at confronting these kind of issues.

[JiltedJohnsJulie]

I've had this for many years too and I just live with it. It's just 2 hours and will probably just affect one meal. One of the things I do to try and combat it is to make sure they are tanked up before we arrive. Something like banana and ready brek for breakfast and a lovely healthy snack and some milk before we go. Could you go later a feed DS a massive lunch before you arrive?

I use my dparents for child care so I figure I just have to put up with it, and they eat fairly healthily the rest of the time. Dmil sometimes gives them tea twice a week and usually it is devoid of fruit and veg and she gives them at least 2 puddings and sometimes 3! I just make sure they snack on fruit most of the time.

[daisygatsby]

thanks jilted, thats probably the approach im going to have to take and a good idea re filling him up before he goes. they are minding him at the weekend, so i will arrive armed with healthy snacks for him to have during his stay!

[BooBumpDaddyandMe]

I know life is about compromise & i know that GP were put on this earth to spoil their GC but the undermining thing really gets on my goat
I also agree to some degree with what happens at Grannies stays at Grannies (re treats) but COME ON!!!! If I say no I'm saying it for a reason not just to be a mean old cow.
Rahhhhhhhh! It's 4.30am so feeling unnecessarily furious about said undermining. Won't matter half as much by lunch time

[ripsishere]

IMO, and it seems I am the only one, it's a couple of times a week at most. Not every meal.

[JiltedJohnsJulie]

If the undermining thing is really getting to you then you need to talk to them when you've calmed down a bit. For me, I have my GP as childcare and they do a lot for me anyway so I put up with it and try to relax.

I even laugh at the well stocked treats and call it the cupboard of obesity.