ok, im probably being snobby and interfierring and stupid....but really im not usually like that.
basically, my ds has a little friend the same age as him (18 months) and i met her parents through a playgroup. They have become good friends over the past year or so, and we have got to know eachothers family quite well. We are very different people, and have a lot of different views on things.
The thing is.......some of the ways in wich they are bringing up their little girl just seem wrong to me. i only have one child and am not claiming to be a perfect parent.....far from it, but i listen to advice and try new things....and genuinely care about how my ds is being bought up.
anyway....this child is 18months and literally does not eat. that is unless its macdonalds chocolate crisps or junk food. i have seen her eat rice (plain white) a couple of times. but that is the only other thing she will eat. i understand that kids can be fussy...fair play, but everytime they come over for dinner....which is very often....i cook a meal for everyone....varies everytime but usually something like spag bol etc. So the food gets put infront of the child she throws it around, screams, and is then given crisps chocolate and a bottle. You can see why she refuses to eat anything else?!?
the mum and dad live at the mums parents house at the mo, and have had two litters of puppies recently, the little girl is left to walk around in all the mess puppies have made, and at some point they get around to wiping the floor, but never the child!
she was ill a few months ago, so was taken to the doctors, and given antibiotics. did half the dose, and then when the child got ill again 2 months later, her mum gave her the old antibiotics she found in a drawer without even going to the doctors.
she is constantly dosed up on calpol.....if her cheeks go a bit red....'oh shes flushed ill give her some calpol' if she winges....regardless of circumstance...'oh she must be feeling rough...ill give her some calpol' and is then given it every 4 hours....sometimes 3 for the next 2 days!!!!
The child has started nursery now, and they seem to just be getting worse with her. The dad works full time as an apprentice and the thing that gets me..........the mother is a nursery nurse.
Im not meaning to judge, i know both parents love her to bits but seriously, theres some things that are just common sense. They come round to me moaning and moaning about how she wont eat and is always ill etc....then make a mess, go home stick a horror movie on with the kid there and let her scoff chocolate!
i dont know how to tackle the subject....they are constantly asking me for advice and ive tried taking the softly softly approach.....but nothing!! im just starting to get a little concerned about the child tbh.
sorry for going on and on. i just cant really talk to anyone about it.
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cloggs142 · 29/10/2012 15:48
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