Have any of you had to do this?
I have dd (12) from a previous relationship. Secondary infertility, both tubes now gone due to ep's and I've just learned I have no eggs left. DOR or early menopause or something, wasn't quite taking it all in when they explained.
I'm trying so hard to pick myself up. I've stayed in my own safe, little world watching tv, MNing, playing games on FB just to block it all out but my dreams are getting worse. I'm waking up crying. I'm forcing denial because I'm afraid the truth, the reality will consume me.
When I lost the second tube we decided that was it. We accepted it or at least we thought we had until well-meaning friends and family changed our minds and we began to believe we could still have a baby through IVF. Despite reservations on both our parts we went for it. Now we've learned only donor eggs will make it even remotely possible.
We don't have the money but we could save it over the coming year but I'm terrified. That would mean another year of hoping, wishing, wanting and there's no guarantee it would work. I don't think I could face this hurt again and dh doesn't think I could either. He assures me he loves dd like his own and is ok with not having a biological child and I believe him.
Bloody hell, I'm rambling now. I love dd with all my heart and of course I realise I'm so blessed to have her. I don't love her any less because I'm grieving for another who will never come to be.
I need to learn to accept that and be happy. How? Will the dreams always set me back? Will seeing or holding another baby always hurt so much? My body knows the wonderful feeling of a child growing inside. Will the desperate yearning to feel that again ever go away?
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How do you come to terms with knowing you can't have more children?
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CookieRookie · 21/10/2012 15:48
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