My daughter has been saying this a bit recently. Just wondering how to help her. She is in Year 1.
When she was in Reception she was very happy, she had a really good year. She had a best friend who was a boy with autism and she seemed to get on well with many other children in the class too. There weren't any children she had any problems with. Then at the end of reception they mixed the classes round and I noticed that all of the children she got on particularly well with except the best friend boy had been put in the other class.
I hoped that all would be fine and she would make new friends, but it doesn't seem to be going well and she is starting to say that the other children won't play with her. She sometimes plays with a girl in the year above (who also has autism) but she said she doesn't see her and her previous best friend on the playground so much now.
I asked her if she had ever sat on the buddy bench and she said she did but "No one came." (I cried my eyes out at that later when she was in bed.) I think part of the problem is that most of the friendships from last year were kept together when they mixed the classes and so they've just carried on as they were with no wish to make new friends. Also in her previous class i think that there were a lot of children who were her "cup of tea" but they all went into the other class so i think it is hard for her to fit in with the others this year.
I thought I would make an appointment with her teachers to discuss it, but not sure I will be able to say the bit about the buddy bench without bursting into tears! The teachers have been very happy with her. No behaviour problems and she regularly gets certificates for being "kind and helpful." Perhaps there is something about her that doesn't appeal to other children in her class. How do I help her?
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"The other children won't play with me."
Quadrangle · 20/10/2012 23:27
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