DS is a 3 year old tornado, has been very high maintenance since birth, doesn't sleep, ignores any attempts at routine, has been able to throw a tantrum since he could walk at 9 months, and is constantly pushing, pushing, pushing, looking for the next boundary to ignore. Everything is a battle with him, and always has been. He is a hilarious wee boy, great fun when he's in a good mood, but GOD he is hard work.
DD (4 months) on the other hand - totally placid, happy little dumpling, just beams and laughs at everyone, and utterly content just to watch the world go by. and she sleeps brilliantly, normally only up once or twice a night.
DH and I were joking that if we had to pick a favourite, there would be no contest (this was after DS had had a screaming fit because it was dinner time and apparantly 'I CAN'T WANT DINNER! WAAAAAAH', whilst DD beamed at us all before deciding to fall asleep of her own accord in her chair). We are both quite worried now that we will automatically favour the easier child though.
I don't think we do favour her over him at the moment, and of course, it may all change as they get older, but we are going out of our way to spend more one on one time with him as often as possible, and doing stuff we know he enjoys. I'm just concerned I suppose that we will end up generating an unnatural dynamic, or 'spoiling' him with attention to her detriment.
god, this parenting thing is a headfuck sometimes
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if you have one easy child and one 'very intense' child, how do you avoid favouring one over the other?
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Kveta · 19/10/2012 14:36
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