'ingredients' in Measles jab

[mothermars]

Hi
Not wishing to start a huge debate over vaccinations. But, I have a dilemma!

DH is anti vaccinations. Our DS is due his MMR and I have opted for the singles. I did his other routine jabs (against DH's wishes) and that caused friction like you wouldn't believe. But I felt that it was the right thing and that my DS life was more important than my DHs feelings on the matter.

However, I have concerns with the MMR (single or otherwise). My DH has done years of research, and he feels justified by his findings. He has little faith in our government and (long story short) believes it is meanly a money making scam etc. He said that the contents of the vaccines would shock me. He's also spouted much more 'evidence' that vaccinations potentially can do more harm then good. I've done my research too. And I think the only reason I'm doubting myself now, is because I don't have DHs backing, and to me, this is such a big deal, that I feel I am taking a gamble and I'm unsure what to do.

If two parents have strong views and both think they are right - where is the compromise? The middle ground? Who gets the final say? We usually unite in every other aspect.

I know the majority are pro vaccinations, and will say that I should have final say and do it. But bare in mind , that he truly believes that his research is more valid and less corrupted, so me saying "read x y and z" will not alter his opinion.

Has anyone been in this situation before and what did you do?

Also, does anyone know how I can get hold of the breakdown 'ingredients' in the single measles vacs?

Thank you..

[JiltedJohnsJulie]

Could you put up some links to the research that Dh has been convinced by? Also have you discussed what would happen if Lo was unfortunate enough to contract measles and develop one of the rare but serious complications,

[PhyllisDoris]

If DH is anti vaccinations, does that mean he is pro-illness? Tell him to do some research on the illnesses you want to vaccinate DC against. People used to die.

[SuperDuperTrooper]

Sorry not been in this situation before but will follow this thread closely as I'm generally a bit nervous about my DS having the mmr. I too looked into single but mumps is no longer available I believe. This is what concerns me about having the singles as he will only be immunised against measles and rubella.

[Challen]

You are right to question this. Childhood diseases cost our government millions each year...

Statistically our children are more likely to be run over by a car than contract a serious childhood disease.

Prepare yourself for the most vocal and outrageous Pro-Brigade ever if you actively choose not to jab. And remember when you research for yourself, that nearly all clinical trials are privately funded for a reason. Pharma is big business.

[Writergirl]

I have experienced a similar scenario, although kind of the other way around.
My mother was a homeopath for 10 years and always bombarded me with the no vaccine debate. I did my own research, a lot of it, regularly, over 2 years when I had my 1st child.

My DH is against not vaccinating, but on the other hand, he doesn't know anything about it at all, and his opinions are just herd-based. I also had to respect his POV, so I took a middle ground.

This ended up, for me, doing the lightest possible vaccine route, and I did the single measles jab for my daughter. However, I tend to prefer homeopathy for my kids, so I did it all via my homeopath.

Because we live in France, and Homeopathy is widely accepted and practiced here, and not seen as a hippie-alternative practice that is rubbished, all homeopaths are also trained doctors. Hence, he ordered the single vaccine and we followed up with a homeopathic treatment.

I personally felt I'd chosen a middle ground that I was comfortable with, where everyone's POV was accounted for.

However, I have respect for your DH and, I do actually feel and believe that a lot of the vaccine industry is a big scam.

I have an amazing book, but it's in French, unfortunately, which gives a very measured and factual approach to vaccines, written, again, by a GP/Homeopath. Based on years of experience and practice he gives his own opinion on what to do in each case. You can always look at the whale vaccine website - (google it), but it's quite difficult to navigate.

I now await the barrage of comment that will surely follow!

[Writergirl]

PS - also, by ordering a single vaccine, you get the batch number, and ingredients, so if you had any side affects, which I imagine is what you are concerned about, you can trace the vaccine back to a batch.

The thing that helps me take a reasoned view is to very carefully look at statistics, and then decide for yourself.

[Loislane78]

mothermars difficult situation :(

Regardless of the decision, with all due respect, is your DP qualified to assess the 'ingredients' of a vaccine?

Unless you understand how live vaccines are raised and why, batch to batch consistency and what that really means, I would think basing your decision on benefits/side-effects would be better.