Hello All,
I am a quiet regular but have namechanged for this as I am so ashamed to find myself writing this post. From the outside, my real life friends probably wouldn't guess this is me as I seem to keep it together in public but fall apart at home.
I am a SAHM and have 3 dcs (4.4y, 2.2y & 5mo) and am really struggling. We have had a terrible time recently and I know that I am stressed to the hilt and I know that I am taking it out on the children but at the same time I can't seem to stop. DD (the oldest) used to be very well-behaved but since DS1 has turned 2 and become more verbal and they have really started playing together her behaviour has changed. DS1 is not very mature for his age and can't really communicate in sentences yet (although he has lots of words) so DD seems to be 'dumbing down' to his level - lots of silly baby talk, and running around screeching which of course DS1 finds hilarious and so it goes on. I know she is only 4 and that I am expecting too much from her (DH has told me I am too hard on her too) but i hear myself constantly saying 'don't do that..', 'don't do this...' or worse 'why are you being such an idiot?', or even worse still 'shut up - I don't want to listen to you anymore '.
I hate myself and don't want to be the shouty screechy Mum. I am terrified that my daughter hates me and will grow up to be distant and removed from me. I love her so much and really hate the way I am.
Please Mumsnetters can you help me cope better. Other than counting to ten before speaking what else can I try to restrain my damaging comments? I am in tears writing this. Admitting my behaviour to myself by writing this just makes it seem so much worse than I had thought. I really think my kids would be better off without me right now . DH is a much better parent. He is so patient but isn't around very much as he works a lot. I really do love my kids and they deserve better than me for a Mum.
Any help gratefully received. I'll try anything. Thanks.
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HelpMeIAmDrowning · 07/10/2012 13:44
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