My hubs has told me a few times recently I shout at our toddler. She's nearly two. He's full time working and I'm presently a sahm.
I am very fast to be irritable. It is a failing. I can be sarky or pithy and biting in my reaction. I am definately a 0-60 temperament. That said I can be very good in dealing with situations. I can detach and sort a problem or emergency easily. I can be extremely tolerant too. It's not like I'm just one thing.
I am worried now about shouting at dd. I don't want to intimidating or frightening. I've read books and the people described seem very bland, all with holding emotion in front of the child. But what do you do with that emotion afterwards? It has to spill out somewhere doesn't it? I'm not an automaton, but I'm starting to worry I'm weird, overly angry, scary and oh heavens very unlike supernanny and those described in books.
I wouldn't mind but sometimes I can hear my reaction to a situation (drawing on the floorboards) but don't actually feel the intensity I sound. Like I'm adding anger to achieve a result faster or something. Or because it then sounds more like my mum or dad. Plainly I'm getting it wrong. Hubs mum is a blooming saint, doubt he got shouted at once. So doesn't I expect help comparisons.
Am I the only one to worry about how angry they sound? Has anyone else got any tips to not shouting? And what you do with the excess feelings at another point? I don't think bottling things up is healthy either, wouldn't want it to pop out in a massive blow up in a week for example...,
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Too shouty by half
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LaCiccolina · 26/09/2012 14:01
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