I live away from my bf and she has 2 ds, one is 3 and other is 6. She planned to have them and got pregnant quickly with both. I noticed from the few times we have spent together post children she does not enjoy them and any plans she wants to make with me are always without kids. She has cancelled plans when we have agreed to all meet up literally on the day. Me, dh and 2 kids went abroad to be with her on her wedding day and i noticed then how unhappy she seemed. She had planned for kids to be with her on wedding day for years but she was miserable most of the holiday, her youngest needed walking to sleep every night and I could see it was tough. She is self emplyoyed and makes cakes and from what i can tell, the youngest amuses himself whilst she makes them. he has had hearing probs and despite having grommets and the fact he can now hear, he is still naughty.
Anyway she told me that her dh has just had a vasectomy and she has no plans for a 3rd as she has never had any mothering instinct!!! thats quite an admission and I feel she could do with some counselling or CBt to just talk through how she feels. i have known she has been unhappy for some time and lets face it, motherhood is hard. i just feel really sad for her and can't stop thinking about it. WWYD if it was your friend?
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friend just told me she has no mothering instinct- she has 2 ds
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cheekymonk · 24/09/2012 13:03
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