Our DD is 8 days old and I am being slightly overprotective at the moment as I do watch her almost every minute of the day, so I acknowledge I may be being a bit PFB about this.
DD was crying and fussing in her moses basket. DH puts his hand under her side and starts jiggling her body back and forth in little jolts, IYSWIM. I asked him to do it a bit gentler as I felt he was being a bit aggressive with it, and he got very upset and said I was criticising his parenting.
After a couple minutes of disagreeing, I said ok and that he should hold her as she was still fussing and I figured that he wanted to and that he felt I had interrupted his time bonding with her.
He refused to take her because he felt criticised and refused to talk to me except to say he was angry at being criticised on his way of parenting.
I feel very angry he refused to hold his daughter because of a slight issue and at his sulking rather than talking to me over something otherwise so trivial. We have at least 18 years of joint parenting to come so what are we going to do if he can't take a little criticism!?
I feel maybe he is upset because I have her all the time, but I don't understand his reaction. I just wanted him to rock her a bit gentler, I wasn't trying to be overly critical or interrupt his time with her.
So anyone want to venture their opinion? Yes a trivial matter, but it really bothered me that he refused to hold her because of a disagreement we were having. Plus, now I am a bit worried this means we are always going to disagree over stupid little things like this.
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Quick outside perspective needed on a frankly trivial but bothersome issue (DH and I having first disagreement over parenting)
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LDNmummy · 08/10/2011 23:31
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