Controlled crying am I right?

[smithy100]

I'm sure there will be lots of different thoughts on this and I'm very interested to see what you guys think, this it the situation....
Got 3 children 5,3 and nearly 1 both ds sleep brilliantly but dd is a problem! I'm really not fussed to be woken up once in the night give bottle of milk nappy change and back to sleep it worked with the boys till they were about 1 then slept through. But dd not the same she wakes about 3ish has milk nappy no lights no fuss back in cot rub back and over an hour later still not a sleep. I think it could be teething so then give calpol and about 1/2 later she will go back to sleep.

I know you will all say get rid of the bottle and tonight we are and trying controlled crying ... Thoughts please and I'll let you know how we get on x

[reallytired]

There is no right or wrong on this. You know your family circumstance better than someone on the internet.

Personally I disagree with controlled crying, but I also acknowledge it works for some people.

Could you not offer water or diluted milk?

[Octaviapink]

I say go with what works for your daughter. Bugger what anyone tells you.

[Avenged]

Agree with Octavia. What works for one family may not work for another and what you agree with WRT your own family, others may not agree on.

[Haberdashery]

I think at 1 year old milk at night is not a totally unreasonable thing. Also, calpol and then half an hour later sleep suggests to me that the calpol is doing something as it does seem to take about half an hour to work. But you know your child best and you know what she can cope with so all I can do is wish you good luck!

[MrsRhettButler]

Sounds like she's waking for the milk, I changed dd's last night feed to water and she soon stopped waking for it.

I guess you'll have to use a bit of cc if you decide o do that or it wilt defeat the point and she'll still be used to waking up.

Good luck

[MrsRhettButler]

Duh, iPad *decide to do that or it will defeat the point

[smithy100]

Hi all did cc last night at bed time cried 5 mins went in, then cried 10 mins went in again then cried another 10 and fell asleep. Woke up at 3.30am gave watered down milk and she went straight back to sleep. Tonight she only cried to 5 mins wonder what time she will wake might try and give watered down milk at 11pm and see if that gets her through.

[Curlybrunette]

You sound very similar to us, I never did cc with ds1, thought it was cruel until ds2 came along and was a horrific sleeper. When he was just about 1 enough was enough and we tried it. He slept through from night 2 or 3 I think. I felt like he needed it, he just needed us to be firm and say no, it's night time you don't need milk you just need to sleep or that's what I've convinced myself anyway

The only other thing I thought was do you need to change dd's nappy, that might be waking her right up?

Good luck tonight
x

[smithy100]

Morning last night not good went to bed fine cried only for 5 mins. Was nearly going to give some milk, change nappy at 11 and decided not too. Dd woke at 1.30 had watered down milk nappy change and then cried on and off for about an hour i went in after 5 and 10 mins she would stop and settle in cot i would go and more crying. until gave bit calpol and dh went in with bit more warm milk and finally sleep. Thing is it's every night and I'm totally run down I don't mind getting up it's just that dd won't settle back down. Any tips a very tired mum x