My ds1 (aged 7) is desperate for everyone to have their focus on him and has been for as long as I can remember.
He'll do stuff like narrate his actions, "Look at me, I'm pouring the milk," to silly stuff like making loud grunting noises and then going full pelt for the hysterics and drama when he feels he's not getting enough attention. He'll throw his breakfast bowl on the floor, call us names like "stupid idiot", "fat bossy mummy" or hit his siblings to get attention.
He almost seems to seek out conflict, thrives on it almost. If I respond calmly to his "I hate you, mummy," with a, "But I love you ds, I always will but I don't like your behaviour," he goes wild because I'm not giving him the fuel he needs to carry on. He then is in his room, with a full explanation of why he is in his room. He stays there until he's calm.
Weirdly, he gets the most attention because he refuses to do stuff like get dressed by himself, won't even try to wipe his own bottom etc.
He's the oldest child and our other dcs are just as amazed and wearied by this as dh and I are.
We tell him we love him every day. We tell him off for his bad behaviour. We praise him for good behaviour. He's great at school. The teachers think he's amazingly well behaved, he gets good marks on his school work etc.
What the heck is going on with him? As I said, he's been like this for as long as I can remember.
Any ideas or advice please?
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Will your child do anything to constantly be the centre of attention?
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ItsGrimUpNorth · 17/09/2011 10:01
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