My DD is 15 tomorrow, very sensible girl, more into books than boys etc.
Now the thing is, I've been invited to a birthday do I definitely can't take her to as it's in a nightclub. Going would involve me being out overnight as it's too far for a taxi back so would have to get a hotel. Said friend who has organised it is very lonely and down and not many people can make it so I would feel terrible if I couldn't go.
Should I try to organise some kind of babysitter? It's possible my mum could stay here with enough notice. Or is 15 old enough for a one off? Really can't seem to think clearly here at all.
I always ask myself: "If XXXX happened, what would be different if I was there?" ie: If the smoke alarm went off at 2am - If I was there I would get us out and ring 999. If DS (also 15) was there he would get out and ring 999.
You just have to go through the realities - does she know how to turn off the stop-cock? The gas?
I think I would be inclined to leave her for one night but make sure your neighbour knows she is alone and make sure they have DD's mobile number and she has theirs. (If not your neighbour then a very close-by friend).
Hmmm. Cross posted earlier as I'd taken ages to reply without refreshing the page <slaps forehead>
She does have three cats to keep her company and could maybe have my mum as emergency contact (she lives in the same town)
I had her when I was 16 and I had my own place, lived on my own with a baby to take care of.
I was very capable at her age and used to babysit my brother til around 2am from 15 and the odd overnight from 15.
Going by what I was capable of at her age theres no doubt she would be ok....it just seems so different looking at it as a mum though. I've always tried to give her space and freedom, not wrap her up in cotton wool etc.
I think I will try other avenues first, see if she can have a sleepover at a friends or if (her most sensible) friend can join her here and parents ok with it etc, or if my mum can stay - and if not then will possibly try it on her own for the night with my mum as emergency contact if she needs anything.
My parents went to Australia for a couple of weeks when my sister and I were a similar age, some nights my sister wasn't there so I was alone and vice versa. I definitely think she is old enough, but only if she is happy to do so