Hi,
I wanted to pick the collective MN brain and canvas some opinions.
I'm due to become a dad in the early part of next year. I'm extremely excited and happy about this and am keen to prepare as well as I can to best support my partner and my child.
Having recently done some browsing on the fatherhood institute web site (www.fatherhoodinstitute.org) I read an article on what makes a good dad. One of the points was that fathers who have participated in baby-care courses take on more (and better) care of their babies than fathers who have not.
Seems fairly obvious, so off I go to the internet to find out about baby care courses, and am surprised that there really don't seem to be that many that actively encourage the participation of fathers. Particularly of note here are the NCT (The UK's largest charity for parents). Of the 8 courses (Early Days - postnatal) offered by the NCT within my region at around the correct time only 1 doesn't specifically say 'Women only'. There are a few father friendly courses run by some organsiations, but these seem to be spread widely around the UK, and run fairly infrequently. Many antenatal courses do encourage the participation of fathers, and that?s great, however the focus of these is generally up to and including the birth, and don?t seem to include much content on actual baby care.
So my questions for MN are:
- Can anyone recommend some good baby care courses that are run fairly regularly in the Yorkshire area that do actively encourage the participation of fathers, or even better, are targeted equally at mothers and fathers?
2)What are peoples' thoughts about the apparent mismatch between the generally accepted view that fathers should be as involved in parenting as possible, and the general lack of support for doing so offered by the various parenting organisations?
3)Apart from breast feeding education, which I'm happy to acknowledge would be better done without fathers present, what is it that is presented on the various NCT courses that means that a general ban on the participation of fathers improves the course experience for the mothers that attend?
Thanks for your input.
And please go gentle on me - I mean well ;)