I feel like such a bad mummy today......am i ?

[MMG]

My little boy 19mnths has been poorly with bad cold and teething, not eating but drinking, very high temp but did improve last night but he is clingy with me anyway but last night he would not let me put him down, while he has been poorly we have no option but to get into bed with him so he will settle/sleep otherwise noone gets any sleep and as its been like this since fri daddy and i are desperatly tired and exhausted. Last night he would only sleep on my shoulder....i was just reading the thread that mum2sam left on monday....if i tried to sit on the bed with him on my shoulder he would scream, if we lay down in bed he would scream, its got the the point when i lay him down in bed and said go to sleep mummy is here with you but he was having non of it so i lay down next to him and he just screamed, i did try to hold out but my anger was building up so i raised my voice and said - go to sleep, i did not shout but i was getting very upset as i was desperate to sleep, after about an hour i let dad take over but did the same with him untill eventually he fell asleep. I feel so awful should i have done that or gave into him and let him sleep on my shoulder but that would have meant standing up with him all night. :-(

sorry its so long.....any advice?

[Elibean]

Rushing, sorry, but...NO you are NOT a bad Mum! 19 months is big and heavy and you are not made of concrete! Poor little chap was probably just very tired and wound up, and going to scream if things weren't just exactly so no matter what you did - those moments in the middle of the night are just 'get through as best as you can' IMO, horrible, but normal. If he's still screaming today, and he's not normally a screamer, might be worth getting his ears checked out? IME there's nothing like painful ears for upsetting a child - my DD once had the start of an ear infection, and they do tend to kick off at the end of a heavy cold: I could tell by the way she wouldn't sleep lying flat, and cried no matter what in the night - very unlike her. HOpe the little lad is better today, and please please don't give yourself a minute more of a hard time.

[BudaBabeInAManger]

Of course you're not a bad Mum!

If he's still like that today take him to the doc - sounds like it may be an ear infection.

[melrose]

Sounds like ear infection to me too, when my DS (Same age) was ill recently, he was exactly the same, would not slep lying down as it makes their ears hurt more. I propped his cot up and that seemed to help, or, one very bad night propped him up on pillows in bed between us and then moved him back to his cot when he was asleep. Anti-biotics made a difference after a day, but some docs are funny about giving them for ear infections but I was quite insistent!!

[melrose]

and of course your not a bad Mum xx

[MMG]

thanks i feel alot better know, its nice to get someone elses opinion, never thought about the ears, i will see how he is later and get it checked out again. Its awful when you just can`t comfort them, poor thing.