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I am so sad my ds starts school tomorrow

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addressbook Mon 15-Aug-11 08:59:03

His first day at school tomorrow and I feel really low. Don't get me wrong he can be difficult at times and my life will be a bit easier I think (have a dd two as well) but I am going to miss him so much, as will his sister.

It feels like the end of an era. I worry about the finality of it and I just can't shake this heavy feeling. We have had some really fun times over the holidays and I know there will be other holidays but somehow I know there won't be the same freedom and opportunities. I just feel really low

kittensliveupstairs Mon 15-Aug-11 12:01:31

Buck up, he isn't being taking to a monastary where there is silence and no communication with the outside world.
Is your DD younger than him, or did you feel the same way when she started at school?
I can't wait for my DD to start back, these have been l-o-n-g holidays, she's already been off for nearly 10 weeks and it's another three till she starts her new school.

AuntieMonica Mon 15-Aug-11 12:11:30

aw, i understand how you're feeling, OP

the next person who says 'you lose them when they go to school' is going to get a mental punch in the face from me!

we've spent the past 4+ years being the sole influence on their lives, teaching them the things we hold dear and now some stranger is going to take over and undo all the good we've done.

the teacher won't know how to comfort our LOs when they fall, they won't know that little 'look' they have when they really want a cuddle.

they won't be able to tell if they are missing us.....

only they will, honest smile

teachers are human and often parents too, and are very well tuned into how to read our DCs. and it seems like a long day, but they are only there 6.5 hours out of 24 wink

our DCs on the other hand are about to embark on a whole new journey of discovery, growth and how to be a valuable member of society

<off to repeat the last 2 paragraphs ad infinitum without crying sad>

mamadivazback Mon 15-Aug-11 12:24:35

Address I know how you feel my DS starts tomorrow as well, feel like I have been waiting for it for 6 weeks and now I don't want him to go.

It is terrifying but I am trying to look on it as DS & I getting on towards a better and more interesting (because lets face it 5 years i s a long time to primarily spend with one fecking person day in and day out), so he is off to school for a few hours each day and I am off to college in 2 weeks to start towards a job I love and hopefully a better financial future for us all!

Monica you just made me cry

'the teacher won't know how to comfort our LOs when they fall, they won't know that little 'look' they have when they really want a cuddle.

they won't be able to tell if they are missing us.....'

I had'nt even thought of that grinsad

lallyp Mon 15-Aug-11 12:47:55

I know how you feel and have realised and decided that for us, its just too soon to hand my ds over to the care of a school. Boys in particular find school challenging.
I had been totally freaking out and now feel happy again. In Switzerland and Scandinavian countries children do not start school until they are 7 years old, and yet still come out with the same if not better results than British children.

Noone can make you send your child.
Follow your instincts. If you don't think its right, keep him with you until you feel that it is the right time. A friend of mine pulled her son out of school after 2 weeks as her ds was terribly stressed, having nightmares and wetting himself.

Never forget that the choice is yours. You know your little one better than anyone else on earth. Some children thrive in school, others do not.

good luck whatever you decide

addressbook Mon 15-Aug-11 13:45:27

Thanks guys

My ds is actually 5.5 (I am in Scotland). He did pre-school last year and despite some confidence issues (he is a quiet boy) he adapted well in the end and enjoyed it.

I have often thought about home education, but I wonder if it is more about me not wanting to let go rather than it being what he needs. I have no excuse as my dd is only 2 and doesn't start school for another three years!

I think it is right for him but yes I would have no qualms about reviewing the situation if he was struggling. To be honest it can be tough at home (although wonderful as well) and part of me has been looking forward to having time with dd and a chance to write (my hobby) when she naps. I have had a life long dream to be a writer and this might be a new chapter for me too. My MIL has offered to take my dd one day a week whilst he is at school, a great chance to do something for myself.

But he is my boy and we have been through so much together. Yes of course it is only 6 hours out of 24. There will be weekends and holidays. I loved school as a kid and education was my ticket out of a pretty rough childhood, so I am a fan of school and education. I don't know, I just feel sad about it.

mamadivazback Tue 16-Aug-11 20:35:42

Addressbook how did you both get on today?

I am in Scotland today so my DS started today too (he is 5.2YO) and he was really happy to be there and I was fine whne he went in but I think if he was upset I would've been as well.

It is hard and it will be a little strange for a bit but you will both settle into soon, how loong is our half day transition period? Ours is only until Monday then it's full time which scares me a little but I know we will cope grin

addressbook Tue 16-Aug-11 21:44:15

Thanks mamadiva - It went okay although he goes straight into full days shock. He was a little nervous to start, but soon found a pal to talk about Star Wars to! To be fair he went to pre-school in the same building last year and his old nursery teachers were there, to ease the transition.

It will just seem strange and quiet for me and dd. I will feel guilty doing fun things with her and thinking 'oh ds would have enjoyed this'. I have been quite emotional, but he was quite chirpy when I picked him up and I am delighted and proud he coped with his first day smile

addressbook Tue 16-Aug-11 21:47:19

good luck with college and the new job. I love being a sahm but I know in the future, I will want my own life as well. I am trying my hand at writing, have done a couple of night classes. However if that didn't work out, I can fall back on my nursing qualification.

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