Ok have been searching around the posts and found quite a few 'my four/five year old has changed character and gone a bit postal of late' so feel it could be a 'phase thing'. Just wanting some more reassurance/advice as things are feeling completely out of control. My 4 year old DS has now had three quite big 'tantrums' in the past couple of weeks which have involved hitting/biting and kicking me really quite hard. Prior to the violence there is a lengthy amount of arguing and complete defiance to requests such as 'Please put your shoes on in the wet muddy playground'. Today this request meant I was slapped around the face repeatedly quite violently (in a very public park being watched by a bemused family). I walked away at first totally shocked (reduced to tears) as I was in danger of hitting back, I then returned and calmly explained his behaviour was unexceptable and removed him to sit on a bench. He continued to rudely be defiant etc. Tonight at bedtime he has refused to go to bed and spent the past half hour kicking the door and shouting. His Dad went up to try and got a torrent of 'shut up' 'I'm not going to do what you say'. We are trying to remain calm and put on an amazing united performance of perfect parenting but inside I just keep hearing Jeremy Kyle saying 'when did your son first hit you?'
The plan is to remain calm against the violence and to walk away or 'restrain' safely when we can. Explain the behaviour is unacceptable. Remove telly watching (the one thing he loves above all else) and to remove any violent influences (big on spiderman and batman at the moment and wondering if the superhero thing is having this affect...she wonders lamely!)
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Tyniclogs · 07/08/2011 20:55
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