This afternoon we had a child round to play from school, right from the start he kept boasting on to me about how wonderful he is at everything, it was really intense. I am just wondering if I should have dealt with it a bit somehow. My ds (who is quite kind of young for 6 and just sort of plays and is quite quiet) didn't seem to mind really, just sort of started playing at home and for a while it was okay. They went and played a bit with some cars and stuff. Then I could hear a lot of shouting over who was winning at a game and ds just said quietly he didn't want to play anymore. We put a film on them at teatime when I joined them it all started again. Lots of boasting about being tall and my ds being so short and 'like the biggest preschooler in the world' and got wuite agitated about not being the tallest in the class and being second tallest. I just said that we are a short family and that everyone is different that's what makes us all special. It really got grating after a while though usually with ds and his best mate I can chat with them but this time when I tried I got to a full stop each time. (with 'no I don't think so') and then when i was trying to chat about where he was going on holidays I said 'oh we went there a couple of years ago' pleased to have something to talk about that perhaps would be okay..but he was upset 'oh you got there first!' but intensely upset. Then moved on to ranking the children in the class in order of how much he liked them (ranking my ds second smiling at him while ds looked back nonplussed). I also noticed him putting huge pressure on himself to do drawings perfectly and to copy something identically..
I am wondering what to do in future, also making me ponder over whether possibly this kind of behaviour is a result of personality or possibly our education system/school and emphasis on 'performing' any thoughts?
And how to deal with it in future?
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Dealing with a boastful/bossy child
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Orangeflower7 · 05/08/2011 02:58
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