I ma thinking of approaching my ex about having shared custody of dd, I know custody doesn't exist but I am generally talking about dd living half the week here and half the week at her Dads.
At present I have sole responsibilty for dd due to her fathers behaviour in the past. But he seems to have settled, he is exercising regular contact ( still paying no maintenace but I have come to the colnclusion that dd needs her dad more than we need the money.)being much more responsible. He now ahs her almost every weekend as well as having her during the week every now and again so dp and I can have time together. He has also offered to adjust his working week so I can go to work on a Wednesday and he can look after her.
Those of you who have read my posts before will know that dd can be a difficult child and when I am not well I struggle with her. Dp and I had a long chat this weekend after a few difficult weeks with her when I have played a big role in her misbehaviour by being a crap mother basically. I think that dd would be better at the if her dad and I worked more as a team and we could both face the challenges she throws at us with renewed vigour and enthusiasm rather than being caught in that endless cycle of whinging toddler and stressed knackered mummy.
I was thinking that dd could live with dp and I Monday and Tuesday with her dad Wednesday and Thursday and we could alternate Fridays and Sundays.
In reality it isn't much differet from what we do now except that rather than going to stop with daddy at weekends I hope dd will get a feel that she lives with both of her parents who make an equal contribution to her. Is this pie in the sky?? Also by formalizing things or at least ahving a routine agreed on in advance everyone knows where they stand and hopefully dd will feel more stable about her relationship with her father.
I have always been rather sceptical parenting between divorced couples but I know that dd loves both her dad and I equally and that as mature adults we owe it to her to leave the past where it belongs and move on.
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twinsetandpearls · 29/11/2005 17:24
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