Sometimes (usually when DS is not with me, ie, at school or in bed) I start to think about all the times I have maybe overreacted with him or shouted unnecessarily, and I feel really bad about it.
I remember one particularly bad time a few years ago when he had a bad cough that went on for weeks on end. One night when he was in bed with me (so I could keep an eye on him) he coughed literally all night long and I remember telling him to stop and getting cross with him. I feel so bad about this as obviously he couldn't stop. I think I was just so exhausted, worried, upset and exasperated that I couldn't help him, so I told him off! I feel so bad about that particular time.
Also I remember once shouting at him to go back to sleep after he had been continually waking at 5am for weeks on end (he was about three at the time). He lay in bed crying as I had my head under the pillow. I still feel terrible about it.
There haven't been any of these incidents for ages, not for years actually, and generally we have a great relationship. I love him so much and we do have lots of positive fun together, so why do I keep focussing on the negative horrible times? I suppose I just feel so bad about it. The thing is, I doubt he even remembers those specific incidents, but I can't help remembering them and feeling bad.
Please tell me others have done or said things too that you regret and feel bad about, and any advice on how to rationalise it in my head?
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poptartpoptart · 11/07/2011 12:23
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