I am blessed with two fab daughters - who are so alike in terms of personality and appearance.
DD1 has excelled at everything she has turned her hand to. She is 9 years old:
Has passed her Gold swimming awards
Has passed her Grade 3 ballet exam
Has passed her Grade 3 music exam
Has achieved straight level 4's on this term's year 4 school report.
DD2 has also done extremely well in her own right - and whilst we never ever compare the two of them in their earshot - DD2 does not complete things with the same degree of fluency. Note - while she is only 7 (Yr 2):
She too achieved straight level 3's in her KS1 assessments.
Has already passed her grade 1 music exam.
Swims and does ballet with competence if not the flair of her sister. So she is doing really really well - but has to work much harder to achieve these standards.
As parents we couldn't give a stuff which daughter is possibly "better" at this or that - as long as they are both happy... but starting to sense that DD2 is aware that she is not as good as big sis - and we don't want this brewing in terms of her thinking "I'm not as good as she is"
We probably haven't helped things in terms of them doing the same afterschool activities... and maybe there is something new we could get DD2 to experience and deliberately exclude DD1 from it :) but starting to get concerned about little lady feeling as though she's falling short (note we get DD1 to over-celebrate DD2's achievements - as we desperately don't want any sibling rivalry between them)
Anyone got any advice?
P.S. DD2 is teeny (as DD1 is) - on the 0.4%-ile on the growth charts - so if anyone has any idea of a sport/pastime that might appeal to a diddy-kid, that would be especially welcome (we all enjoy our sport incl DD2)
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Stre55ed · 03/07/2011 20:21
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