I need to talk about my DS. He has always been a challenge but things have not improved with age and he still frequently loses his temper in a massive way. He totally loses control of himself and screams, spits, lashes out and calls me and DH the worst insults we can think of. He kicks off if we ask him to do something, if he is not allowed to do something, or if he gets into a dispute with one of his sisters. Typically he does not calm down for over an hour.
I don't know what to do anymore. I've read many parenting books and feel fairly confident in my ability to parent my 2 dds, but do not have a clue how to handle my son. He is getting bigger and it's difficult to restrain him if he tries to hit us. We stay calm and put him in his room to calm down but he just runs out again. He doesn't care about any threat - we take away tv and computer time and pocket money but he's not bothered, we just do it because we don't know what else to do.
My dds are avoiding him more and more and are not getting the attention they need due to us constantly trying to deal with ds. He is generally quite negative about everything and considers that he has a bad life but can also be delightful and we have some good times together if he's in the right mood. He is fine at school.
I worry about why he is like this and if it's something we have done. DH think's it's just the way he is and that he's immature and things will improve. I hope he's right but thought things would have improved by now if it's just immaturity (I agree that he is emotionally immature).
Anyone have experience of a child like this? This situation is ruining our family life and I'm scared to go out and do anything in case he kicks off.
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DS(8) has almost daily meltdowns - immaturity or something wrong?
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largetiamaria · 01/07/2011 21:34
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