I'm a bit concerned about what my dd's friend is saying to her and would appreciate some advice on how to handle this.
DD(6) is quite shy and is not very good at making new friends so she really only plays with this little boy and one other child. They became good friends when they were around 4 and as we had moved abroad, I was relieved that she had found someone to play with. He is quite shy himself, particularly around adults, so I can't really see what he is like but I always thought of him as very sweet.
However he has been saying some things that aren't very nice - a while ago she was extremely upset because he told her to stop looking at him. We just put it down to him being shy & not liking being looked at - but then today she said that he has been saying other things: he doesn't like playing with just her as he finds it boring, that she is only his number 3 as a friend. We talked about it a bit and she said that when they play games, they don't take turns as he always wants to go first and that for e.g. she always helps him find things but he doesn't help her. It seems like this has being going on for a while now.
I'm not sure how to help her - I know that children can fall out each another and be friends the next day so I don't want to make a huge deal of it, but it is upsetting her and I'd like her to figure out that being friends means being nice to each other. I do wonder whether he has outgrown the friendship and I should encourage her to make new friends instead - or whether that is interfering too much?
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Kirlyovie · 29/06/2011 20:23
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