I have two gorgeous boys (3 & 7), who are for the most part well behaved and get on with what they've been told. Of course, since boys will be boys, I do know to expect boisterous behaviour whenever it strikes! But this isn't about them, its about my god-awful temper.
I go from 0-100mph in a matter of seconds and literally scream at them for things that are not at all 'bad' (basically disproportionate responses on my part - undeserved most of the time). I dont mean the odd shouting episode - I mean at least twice a day and proper crazed screeching. I have a particular issue with regards bedtimes and meal times. My poor DH is hugely supportive and a hands-on dad, and is always encouraging me to hold it down with the anger by suggesting different ways and means of coping with my anger.
I hate what I'm doing to them and it hurts like hell to know that I'm most likely psychologically damaging them. I dont want them to grow up remembering their childhood like this. I know as a parent I'm mimicing how my mother used to scream uncontrollably at us as children and how my dad was anal about bedtimes, but I genuinely do not hold any grudges against them as they went through enormous traumatic episodes together and despite this, gave us a very loving and idyllic childhood in many respects.
I just want to break this cycle and havent a clue how to do this. I have no underlying issues to pin this on (bad marriage/financial/family relations etc...) . Just my inability to control myself. Any advice would be greatly appreciated - please do not suggest anger management/counselling as these means are not available where im currently living.
Thanks in advance.
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I have a really bad temper...and hate myself for it
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incrediblehulk · 25/06/2011 19:01
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