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How to improve DH's bond with DD

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nimbs Wed 22-Jun-11 22:12:36

My DD is 5 and is a gorgeous, chatty, happy little girl but at the moment is going through a challenging phase - she is getting up very early and is finding it hard to switch off at night to go to sleep, so her behaviour has been quite difficult due to her tiredness.

My DH seems to be really struggling with her at the moment, and I am worried that she is becoming a scape goat for his other emotions ie he is tired/stressed etc partly due to being woken so early but also due to work etc but he is blaming it all on her. He actually said that she is 'ruining his life' -not to her but to me and I'm feeling increasingly upset that the bond that they had is being smothered by this.

It's difficult to get one to one time with her though I do try to every day as she is one of 4 (DS 7, DD3 - 2, DD4 - 2) but I'm unsure how to resurect the bond between them. We are trying to tackle the sleep issues - and I am really hoping that once she is sleeping for longer and therefore not so overtired things will improve but know that this will take some time. So if anyone has any advice/tips or have been in the same situation I would really appreciate your help!

nimbs Fri 24-Jun-11 20:41:43

bouncing smile

madwomanintheattic Fri 24-Jun-11 20:44:37

family therapy?
v odd that he is focusing on one of four children as the root of all evil... 'ruining his life'?! a tad on the dramatic side. goodness knows what else he has going on, but how odd to focus on one small girl - however sleepless and irritating!

nimbs Fri 24-Jun-11 21:51:41

he is being dramatic - i agree, I think he is focusing on DD as she is the one who is most trying at the moment - it is a phase but he can't see past it.

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